I think DH is upset cause he can't feel bump kick yet?

[puppies]

At first when I starting feeling bump kick we were both excited and I would put DH hand on my belly tapping his hand when I could feel the kick but he still couldn't feel it. He still hasn't felt it yet and I think he is getting upset about it.

I have been giggling away when bump kicks cause I like it and it kind of tickles. But DH has been saying things that make me think he must be upset that he hasn't felt bump kick himself yet. He says things like, "I am sick of you going on about bump kicking".

Now DH has been great during the pregnancy and has never once been negative so it makes me think that he must be upset. Do you think he is and when do you think he will actually feel the kicks from outside my tummy? I just want him to not feel left out and I am not sure what I can do to help him at this stage. I end up finding myself quietly smiling to myself when bump kicks, but sometimes they get so big it just shocks me and I go wow!

[~Kate~]

My DH was the same. He was very distant when I was feeling DD eventually he was able to feel her and was forever laying his head on my belly and resting his hand there.
It is harder for the blokes because we get to feel connected to bubs so much earlier, for me it was like at 2 weeks after conception (or wishful thinking due to her being muchly anticipated). DH wasn't able to feel her until closer to 25weeks I think.
I tried to keep it to myself as much as possible to avoid hurting his feelings. Also, it does take a bit to actually realise what he is feeling is the baby kicking and not just a pulse type thing. KWIM?!
Good luck and reassure DH that he will feel bubs soon. And then you can spoon him at night and let bubs kick the cr@p outta him

[Indadhanu]

Awwww hun I know just what you mean, Shel got really upset when I'd put her hand on my belly but she couldn't feel Jazz kicking, and then she'd get angry at me for telling her when Jazz was kicking. I think they just get a bit felt out when everything is happening to us, but don't worry too much, because even though he can't feel it now he's going to be so excited when he does actually feel it, and it'll be a great moment for you both.

ETA:

And then you can spoon him at night and let bubs kick the cr@p outta him

PMSL I did this to Shel too, in the last few weeks the kicks would wake her up!!!!

Oh, and I'd say he'll be able to feel your bub in the next week or so, from what I remember it was about 22 weeks that Shel was able to feel some pretty strong kicks.

[~Raven~]

Good luck and reassure DH that he will feel bubs soon. And then you can spoon him at night and let bubs kick the cr@p outta him

HAHA!

Or if he spoons you and leaves his hands on your tum for long enough he will feel something! Thats' what we do

[Jakabella]

My DH rushes over to have a feel and as soon as he puts his hands on my tummy eveything stops!!I cant wait till he can feel it too! Neither can he!
I hope it happens for both our DH's soon!!
Kate

[Nadine216]

Awww hun, actually both my bubbas were daddy shy in the begining It's hard because you are sooo excited and he (the daddy) feels so left out and we all know what big babies they truley are

I found the best way to let DH feels EXACTLY what I am feeling is to spoon him. When you get into bed, let him lay on his side and spoon his back as snuggly as you possibly can. (Your bump will fit nicely into the small of his back) I found that dd (and now ds) usually kicked a while just after I got into bed. This way he will feel bubba kicking his back, and if he has a sensitive back (like my DH) he will feel it better than with his hands.

Oh and don't tell him each time bubba moves, wait for him to ask if that was the bubba moving. He might get aggitated when you tell him each time and he is not feeling anything. If he still don't feel bubba, just say that bubba was quiet. In this department .. I feel a little white lie do no harm

Hope he feel little kicks soon!!

[treesinnewzealand]

I can totally agree with everyone else the dad of my first was not around but Josh was like that with his nannie (my Mum) everytime a dozen he be going nuts mum put hand on tummy and he stop it became a joke with us i dont think she felt him until about 36wks
I can feel Bronson moving around a bit more now and a couple time Bryce has put a hand on tummy i can feel him but he cant yet hoping it will come in next few weeks i think make it more real for them when they can start feeling and seeing baby moving. I know it made it more real for me when started feeling him move,oh and the belly popping helped to