I hear ya.
I have found Poise panty liners to be quite good. They are a thicker than normal panty liners but are designed to absorb urine. (Made by the same people who make the incontinence pads.) They are not bulky and uncomfortable and one usually lasts me the day.

I too was over the strong wee smell, discharge and changing my knickers half a dozen times a day. Its hard enough putting them on the morning now let alone having to change them all day!! Oh the joys of being the fairer sex.

Give them a go, I recommend them.