I guess I am a bit in the middle. Without knowing what it is you have and how much it affects you/would affect the baby I wouldn't give an opinion one way or the other on whether i think elective c-section is ott.
But if natural birth or the possibility of passing on whatever it is freaks you out that much then i don't see why he should have an issue with it.
When it comes to the actual birth process i think it should be your chioce cause it's your body. I try follow dh's opinions on caffine etc while preg cause that affects the baby which is half his. But the birth is pretty much left up to me. there's not a lot of dif to the baby bwt the two usually. It's more the recovery/risk of the mother and affect on subsquent preg.
I personally liked a natural birth but i had no preferences going into preg/labour. I had the same easy attitude to meds. Whatever happens happens, no preconceptions of i must/n't have a epidural etc. I certainly wasn't against any drugs and was open to taking the lot if i thought it necessary at the time.
partners often have these ideas ingrained from their own mothers. My dh was not fussy about if i bf or not but was agianst childcare. Well our dd loves childcare abd we benefit both financially and emotionally from my decision to go back to work. these were ideals passed on from his mum that he had to learn to adapt to.
I've talked to Dp about it a bit. He's still pretty much the same. But i think reading this thread and seeing how i felt about it and what other women thought about it was good for him.
We're talking alot about it now. And i don't know, we'll have to see.
We've still got a few months till bubs born yet, so hopefully this will all be worked out by then.
Thankyou so much for all the help!!
Your body, your birth!
What matters in the end is a healthy Mum and Baby.
Completely agree with Nai's post. Very well said!
I had a c-section with our DD - it was calm, beautiful and everything we could've hoped for... we had our beautiful and healthy little girl in our arms and I thoroughly enjoyed my birthing experience...Going back this time for another c-section.
Your hubby is just trying to look out for you - but it is your body. In the end I don't think it will matter to him - he will just be amazed that the 2 of you built such an amazing little person - and how he got here will probably be irrelevant!
All the best,
Lily
I'd make the same choice in your position. Any risk - at all - of givin my child any medical condition will be met with all means possible to prevent it. As a mother its our right to put ourselves between our kids and a loaded gun.
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