I also think what you are feeling is very normal. I didn't feel maternal at all when I was pregnant for the first time, and even after giving birth, those nurturing feelings do not always come straight away. But while you are right, being a mum is hard work and it does involve a lot of nappy changes and lack of sleep, there are also many many positives. I agree with em - it must be hard when the people around you are being negative about it, but try to focus on the positives, and don't compare yourself to other people - their experience does not have to be your experience. The same goes for labour too - it is scary, but I think if you read a lot and do the classes etc - just inform yourself about it, it will help you feel a bit more prepared and in control.

Having a baby does not mean your life will be over - your life will be very different, yes, but not necessarily in a negative way.