Hi there,

hope you don't mind me butting in - i am a little concerned by you saying that YOU are complicating things.

You've not complicated anything sweetheart. Your doc is paid to deliver YOUR baby and YOU are your baby's Mumma, it's not up to you to try to be different for the doctors! It's their job! if they could choose i'm sure they'd have every mum come in the perfect weight, baby perfectly healthy, everything perfect, but then they'd be out of a job!

If you feel you'd like to be lighter, that's something you can totally address when bubba is here and you're well-recovered from pregnancy and birth. Meantime don't feel guilty about being You! Your baby is coming to YOU, not despite who you are, BECAUSE of who you are.

My sister is very large and has struggled all her life with comments and criticisms from doctors, it's so hard to try to get people to understand. I was just under my hospital's weight limit for risk (100kg or over was "high-risk" and not suitable for homebirth, even though my midwife had delivered a 118kg woman the week i booked, at home, with no problems) and luckily (though with no effort from me) i stayed under it (though i actually stopped weighing myself after 37wks! LOL). I understand the stress but don't take it out on yourself.

Remember your emotional well-being is important, don't beat yourself up about any of this. You're a wonderful mother. Hold onto that.

Love

Hana