hope you don't mind me butting in - i am a little concerned by you saying that YOU are complicating things.
You've not complicated anything sweetheart. Your doc is paid to deliver YOUR baby and YOU are your baby's Mumma, it's not up to you to try to be different for the doctors! It's their job! if they could choose i'm sure they'd have every mum come in the perfect weight, baby perfectly healthy, everything perfect, but then they'd be out of a job!
If you feel you'd like to be lighter, that's something you can totally address when bubba is here and you're well-recovered from pregnancy and birth. Meantime don't feel guilty about being You! Your baby is coming to YOU, not despite who you are, BECAUSE of who you are.
My sister is very large and has struggled all her life with comments and criticisms from doctors, it's so hard to try to get people to understand. I was just under my hospital's weight limit for risk (100kg or over was "high-risk" and not suitable for homebirth, even though my midwife had delivered a 118kg woman the week i booked, at home, with no problems) and luckily (though with no effort from me) i stayed under it (though i actually stopped weighing myself after 37wks! LOL). I understand the stress but don't take it out on yourself.
Remember your emotional well-being is important, don't beat yourself up about any of this. You're a wonderful mother. Hold onto that.
Thankyou Hana, I've got tears in my eyes.
Well I've decided to give this doctor the flick, I'm not going to wait until I'm 35 weeks and over his limit and then have to find a non fat phobic doctor, I'm taking matters into my own hands.
I'm booking into the hospital I spoke of that is 1/2 an hour away from here, the Doctor sound like he has a better idea of things and he takes on patients that weigh more then the norm, I see him on the 30th, I'm really nervous about it though, Doctors always put me on edge, but hopefully he'll accept me for who I am and things will be a little bit less stressful.
I will be booking into the hospital before I see him (on the friday, I see him on the Monday), I'll post how I go. I've decided I'm not going to transfer back to my home town either, I've heard that at the hospital I'm booking into they have a new maternity unit and the nurses ar fabulous.
I'm really not looking forward to having another ceaser, but having a doctor on my side would make me feel more at ease, I can't wait to have this baby though, I'll be so happy when we walk out of the hospital and go home together
Thankyou for your kind words, take care...
You go girl!!!
I'm glad that you seem so much more positive and pro-active now. And it sounds like you're making the right decision by changing to a more supportive and better equipped hospital.
I had a similar issue at the beginning of my pregnancy. I am overweight, but never thought it was THAT bad. Then I went to see my GP at 6 weeks and when she asked where I'd like to deliver I mentioned the birth centre here. The GP (herself not a size 10) got all huffy and puffy and flat out told me that at my weight I am high risk and that my weight and the fact that I had not given birth before would probably lead to a c-section. I weighed 85kgs then and I'm pretty tall (BMI 29). I was very upset after being told that I'll have the pregnancy & birth from hell because I had let myself go (her words).
I then contacted the birth centre myself who were more than happy to take me in after considering my medical history and so far have had a breezy pregnancy. And I have never been to see that GP again.
I hate how some doctors try to really make a point about your weight at a time when you are so vulnerable. They make you feel like you've failed as a person and as a mother before you have even had a chance to be one.
Don't let them put you down!!!
Some women put on more weight at the beginning of their pregnancy and then plateau for a while. As long as you are trying to make healthy choices when it comes to meal times and do some gentle exercise, you'll probably be fine. And just for the record, I don't think 120kg at the end of the pregnancy is all that much.
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