To tell or not to tell?

[Jewel]

We found out both times. The first time it wasn't that much of a secret. Family knew mostly, etc.
The second time around we decided we could tell 2 ( or less) people that we trust each and then no one else would know until the birth. Our trusted people did their jobs well and didn't tell anyone nor let on they knew.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

[~Hestia~]

Jewel - that's a good idea about being allowed two people to tell.

Peanutter - well done on keeping it a secret! We're both pretty stubborn too

[ladybird11]

With DD1 and DS we told the world lol, but the DD2 - being the final member of the family we found out but didn't say anything to anyone lol.

So to make it a bit more believable we just told people that bub's legs were crossed and the sonographer couldn't tell.....white lie lol!

[Just Me]

We found out and we told. We decided not to for the last two, but I was so guarded in my conversations because I didn't want to let it slip that it was just a lot less pressure to tell other people. It was only a secret for a couple of weeks before we told people. I would rather tell people on my terms than accidentally let it slip.

My best friend told me what she was having after I hosted her baby shower - no-one else knew, not even her parents so I was so relieved not to know until then. I could have accidentally said to the whole baby shower and that would be terrible. Honestly, if one of my friends was having a baby and wanted to tell me, and only me the gender again, I would be really flattered but decline knowing because it is too big a secret for me. That's just me though. It is such an easy thing to let slip especially if you do lots of talking about 'him' or 'her' and use their name (which we also did). I just couldn't remember not to do it around other people.