Advice anybody?

[Nai]

Ange, maybe look into getting a student doula which won't cost as much? That way you can save that money and try to get ahead.

[Junglemum]

When is it too late to fly? If i was you i would rather be in the UK where all the support seems to be....... otherwise student doula or a friend who has had a positive birth experience might be the go. Best of luck.

[Ange1979]

When is it too late to fly? If i was you i would rather be in the UK where all the support seems to be....... otherwise student doula or a friend who has had a positive birth experience might be the go. Best of luck.

I think it's 34-36 weeks.

I know it's a nice idea for me to just hop on a plane and go to the UK to be with my fiance, but the thing is I'm not British and in the eyes of the British Government, I have no reason to be in the UK aside from visiting as a tourist, since my fiance and I aren't married yet.

They won't let me go into a foreign country and have a baby there without me being a citizen/permanent resident. My OB said it's not an option.

And they won't let me into the country if I don't have traveller's insurance, and I'm told I can't get traveller's insurance because I'm too far along with the pregnancy. In other words, I'm too much of a risk.

So that's the sucky thing about this!

[2CheekyMonkeys]

why does your fiance have to be in the UK to settle the divorce? surely he can do it over the phone, or through some other means of communication??

if you have time to suss it out, maybe you get some sort of student (like student midwife or doula -like nai said), someone who needs the work experience?

dunno if it may be stepping over the line or not but what about your ex? he seems to be very helpful and supportive in other ways but i dunno if it might be a bit too wierd for you all.

other than that i am not sure. what if you speak to a GP or other health care professional for advice or services that may be open to you? good luck.

[Ginger]

i think you need to seriousley consider getting a doula. put it on your credit card if you have to, it sounds like you have the ability to generate enough income to pay it back later. you really need some support here, and a doula would be a very very wise investment.

[Ange1979]

i think you need to seriousley consider getting a doula. put it on your credit card if you have to, it sounds like you have the ability to generate enough income to pay it back later. you really need some support here, and a doula would be a very very wise investment.

I think this sounds like a plan! I pay cash anyway - don't like credit cards!!! LOL!

I do think the support will be a good thing. Like I said, I do feel a lot of love and support now from my fiance and his mum's family overseas, but yeah...they're just not face-to-face, in person right now.

Will see how we go! Anybody know of anybody in Sydney?

[2CheekyMonkeys]

i think there is a 'doula for hire' type section on belly belly somewhere.

[Ange1979]

why does your fiance have to be in the UK to settle the divorce? surely he can do it over the phone, or through some other means of communication??

if you have time to suss it out, maybe you get some sort of student (like student midwife or doula -like nai said), someone who needs the work experience?

dunno if it may be stepping over the line or not but what about your ex? he seems to be very helpful and supportive in other ways but i dunno if it might be a bit too wierd for you all.

other than that i am not sure. what if you speak to a GP or other health care professional for advice or services that may be open to you? good luck.

Long story! In a nutshell there have been some legal hiccups and he can't come back to Australia until it's all ironed out. It's a really messy situation.

As for ex hubby going in with me, we were all okay with this, but the closer I get to the date, the more 'off' the idea of the ex being there I am becoming.

I'm of the opinion that if my fiance - the dad - can't be there, my ex shouldn't be!

Trying to find a student doula to help out, but not sure how much luck I'll have!