HI,

If you can get a doula near you, that sounds like a great idea, especially if your unsure. If you can't have you tried sitting down and talking both you and hubby with a midwife or childbirth educator, to discuss what your options are locally.

We were taught it really comes down to your own (or partners) empowerment. For him knowledge will be power. He will need to know what your expectations are and to understand what all the diff options that you can utilise in labor.
A birth plan is great, because if he forgets, then it's written in black and white. He will need to know that you trust him and support him in any decision that he makes.

Maybe if you can't get a doula near you for the birth you could spend some time with one prior to help establish what you want to gain out of your birthing experience.

Just some thoughts