Hi Ange. Its very confronting when we are told we are having a 'big baby' and I honestly think it should be outlawed LOL - all it does is make us doubt our ability to birth a big baby. The measurements they take can be skewed - the abdominal circumference can be bigger if baby has a full tummy, the 'weight' of bubs is measured from a calculation using the length of the femur as a guide (who would have thought that weight could be calculated by using a leg measurment? ), which could mean that you are just having a long baby, not a heavy one. And even if you had a second scan done immediately after that one by a different person you would have gotten different results too.

Either way, there is no reason at all why you can't give birth vaginally, even with the previous nerve damage from your first birth. Second births are usually a lot easier than the first one as your body has done it before. There are also a lot of contributing factors during birth itself that can increase your chances of tearing - laying on your back, fast second stage of labour (the birth of the baby) and poor management of the perennium as the baby is being born. That said there is a lot you can do before the birth to help your perenium - massage, upright birth positions etc.

From my personal perspective, I had a episiotomy with my first (4.18kg), went on to only have a 2nd deg tear with #2 and #3 (3.85 and 4.32kg each) and only a small graze that required no stitches with #4 and he was 4.56kg and had the biggest HC of 37cm. The biggest difference out of all of them was I had better perenium management with my 4th.

So there is absolutely no reason at all why should need a c/s - you've given birth vaginally before and the only issue was the tearing. Grab yourself a copy of the pink kit and get to know your vagina and give yourself the confidence you need.