I don't think you sound mean or unreasonable at all. You need time to yourself and your family right now. Have you got a family member or close friend that will be willing to take over the responsibility of letting people know how you are doing? Maybe you could sms or email the closer people to you - the ones that are prob bugging you to say "Please contact xxxxx if you need to find out how i'm doing - as i'm having a bit of 'time-out' right now" That way people will prob get the hint and won't even bother to call. Just a suggestion