Thanks.

Totally agree Arimeh, I think you get deflated when the date arrives and theres no baby yet to show off. And then when it comes to other people, well they dont help the situation any.

A few weeks back this friend and I were talking about edd's and going over. Ive gone over twice, and she asked me what it was like. I told her that for me, that although the date comes and goes, and you feel a little deflated because there is no baby, it was also the most amazing feeling, like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. For me there was something extra special about being over that I loved. Its hard to explain but celebrating it rather than stressing made a huge difference.
fwiw, my friend took me up on some ideas, and is off having a lovely day of relaxation and spoiling herself at a day spa