I have been talking to a friend of mine who is due today. I know how badly she has wanted her baby to come before today, she is over the pregnancy and just cant wait to hold her baby in her arms. I think we can all relate to that.
Today I congratulated her on reaching her edd, that today was an awesome milestone to reach and not a deadline to have the baby out by. And that she should be celebrating reaching such an awesome milestone. Not sitting there and stressing about why the baby hasnt come out yet.
We all know that an edd, is just that an estimation. But I think we focus a lot on wanting the baby to come out before the edd, because reaching the edd seems scary (and yeah intervention can definitely be scary). Its almost like if we reach that point in pregnancy then there is something wrong with our bodies, that at any point our bodies may explode from having the giant baby still in there (and yep lets face it, it must be a freaking huge baby if it wont come out right? )
Anyhow, all I wanted to say is that if you are looking at that circled date of your edd, and stressing because you havent had baby yet. Please stop stressing and celebrate reaching a milestone that many dont reach for whatever reason, good and bad. Celebrate and treat yourself, we all deserve it.
Brilliant beans! I remember having a huge cry 10 days after DDs EDD, I was going on for induction the next day and clearly my body had failed to get this baby out on its own. At that point I felt so alone and useless, so I'll keep your post in mind in case it happens this time
As a person who goes over (constantly), I think its because you count down to that EDD, and then you have nothing to count down to. So its like you feel a bit lost, and unsure as to what to do since so much focus has been on counting down those weeks and then days.
It doesn't help when other people count down to that day too. For me, another ten days of calls, texts and fb posts & messages "Have you had the baby yet?!" really did my head in. A bit of support from someone like beans, instead of constantly being made to feel like you're keeping everyone waiting, would go a long way.
LOL yeah I usually crack it and log off from facebook, BB and give DH my phone to stop all contact with idiots that keep texting me asking me if I've had the baby yet.
Uh no. Don't you think I would tell you if I had? I get so worked up and cranky about it, that I just switch off early now. Couple more weeks to go for me then I'll be off haha
I just started ignoring it. Turned out to be a bad strategy because then people assumed that I had actually had the baby and seriously hadn't told anyone! This time I'll be replying to serial pests with a nice-ish message to leave me alone until I see fit to contact them lol.
Totally agree Arimeh, I think you get deflated when the date arrives and theres no baby yet to show off. And then when it comes to other people, well they dont help the situation any.
A few weeks back this friend and I were talking about edd's and going over. Ive gone over twice, and she asked me what it was like. I told her that for me, that although the date comes and goes, and you feel a little deflated because there is no baby, it was also the most amazing feeling, like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. For me there was something extra special about being over that I loved. Its hard to explain but celebrating it rather than stressing made a huge difference.
fwiw, my friend took me up on some ideas, and is off having a lovely day of relaxation and spoiling herself at a day spa
I've never been over, but I found it useful to have 43 weeks as my countdown date. I've always put up to 43 weeks in my calendar, even though I feel over it near the end (39 weeks) it helps my mindset.
I'm only 40 weeks + 2 days but feeling a bit nervous and I'm anticipating the dreaded 41 week hospital appointment. This is my second pregnancy.
With my first, DS went to 42 weeks and 3 days before I 'let' them induce me (under severe emotional pressure), but only because they said I had no fluid left around baby (or rather, not enough to be considered safe). The midwife and Doctor I'd been seeing for baby 1 really gave me a verbal dressing down, to the point of me leaving hospital in tears at my 41 week appointment.
I really had to develop a thick skin and tell them to get stuffed (in a nice way, of course)
It's seriously tough.
So now... 21 months later I'm ready for DS 2 and am now getting those "scared of Doctors/Hospitals/Midwives/induction chats nerves".
I just remember all the crap I went through last time and dragged hubby in to every appointment from 41 weeks to 42+3 (everyday for monitoring).
This time I think I'll leave hubba at home and seriously just tell them to rack off and leave me alone or I won't bother coming in for any monitoring.
I am nervous this is going to be me, EDD tomorrow. I'm not nervous about interventions yet, will worry about that closer to 42w. Might be easier coz I'm having a hb and mw is all for waiting to see what body does naturally. I think for me it's the milestone thing. I'm counting down and then not to have my long awaited baby is upsetting, and not because I think my body is failing. I had ds at 39w 4d, without much help at all, so know I can do it. I just wish I knew when, coz I am sick of all the weeks of prelabour and aching pelvis and hips.
Plus I feel like my dad is going to say told you so. He wanted to make visit to see ds this weekend and I said no coz it was my edd. And he was all like, well what if you go over? Well maybe I don't want visitors when I'm bloody 40w pg.
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You were RAK'ed in 2015.
edd is not a deadline :)
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