feeling really "blahh" about the whole baby thing

[tenar]

I'm 31weeks, 2 days today, and feeling really bored and uninterested in the whole pregnancy and baby thing. This worries me a little because in general I have been so excited and happy about it.

At the moment I'm tired, physically uncomfortable, generally grumpy, generally stressy, and almost resenting the huge interference that the pregnancy is in my life at the moment, and the huger interference that the baby will be when she arrives.

I can't summon those feelings of delighted anticipation that have characterised most of my pregnancy so far.

I'm anxious about how we will cope when baby arrives, especially since my DH is ill in an ongoing way and seems unlikely to get well before the baby comes.

Are these feelings unusual?

I have a history of depression, so I'm concerned about antenatal depression cropping up. Don't think I'm there yet and it's probably just a bad week or something. But I don't like feeling like this. I think I should feel more enthused and more happy about the whole thing.

[myson]

Oh lovey, its probably not unusual. There are so many hormones running around and changing and such huge things going on. And the baby will make a huge difference... but in a beautiful way mostly.

Sorry i dont have any helpful tips to get you and DH hyped about the whole thing... but Im sure that feeling will come in time on its own. And you know about depression and how it feels so maybe talk to your Doc and give him/her an assessment of where you think you are at just so they are aware of it too, and can watch out for you.

TBH, im feeling a bit BLAH myself. Between the GD and the 10 different jabs and needles everyday, the house not being finished, the hot weather, all the bad news lately.... life kinds sux a bit... I think when things are going just the tiniest bit pear shaped then we PG ladies feel the full brunt of our emotions in a more extreme way than most.

Lets have a hot chocolate together and 4 tim tams each to see if that helps... not IRL of course cos that will mean more insulin... Ill put the kettle on, you grab the mugs.

[tenar]

mmm, tim tams!

Thanks Myson

[Toomanytoomany]

Yes, it's normal to feel that way from time to time, maybe even for days at a time. If you feel like it is happening for more than a couple of weeks, then might be a good time to speak to your health care provider.

But babies *are* a major disruption, right from conception. They are lovely and cute and wonderful and all that, but you get tired and sick and weary carrying them, and then they are born and on top of making you tired and weary, they *cry*. They cost money. They are distracting. I think it's realistic to feel a bit overwhelmed at times, particularly if you are dealing with other complications such as the ill health of a partner.

Part of me wants to keep this baby inside forever, because I know all too well what it's going to be like when the baby is born. Yes, I will love it, but I know how exhausted and stretched I'm going to be with four other kids living at home to care for.

[amyalexandra]

The last few days for me have been just as topsy turvy with my moods.
You'll be fine.
I actually feel somewhat the same way as toomanytoomany!
Stay in there baby, as long as you like! but I still am dying to meet you