I suppose people are trying to be well meaning and help you with advice - but it gets a little overwhelming, especially in the first trimester. Like I said, by the time you get to the middle of the second trimester you're over it and have probably spoken to some suitably qualified people about your concerns.

I found that in the first trimester you're sort of left out on a limb a bit. I suppose the OBs are waiting for viability and that sort of thing. Then, once that's reasonably assured they'll quite happily move in to the nitty gritty. I could be wrong - but that's what I found.

Ryn it is very considerate of your friend to keep her story to herself. Evidently it would have been very traumatic but she obviously realises it is a rare thing and not necessarily going to happen to you. She obviously sees there is no point in worrying other pg women. But I am sure she would be there for anyone with a similar experience.

Along the same lines of old wives tales (there is some element of truth in this however, you'd still take precautions, wouldn't you?) one of my friends was told by a nay-sayer that there is no way she could get pg while breastfeeding her new daughter. Her second baby is due in March!! Oops.

To quote Jurassic Park (of all things) - "life will find a way".