Having your mum around

[Jellyfish]

I did spend a lot of time with my Mum during my third trimester but then again, I'd spent a lot of time with her before and still now, I see her almost daily so I guess that is just our relationship. That sounds really intense but she isn't interfering or anything, more like a good friend and I enjoy talking about our days together plus she helps entertain DD while I get dinner sorted (she drops by on the way home from work) which is really helpful as a single Mum. Anyway, getting way off track but at any rate, I don't think there are any rules -- you just go with how you feel!

[Beach Mama]

I spent some time with mine but didn't just hang out heaps and I appreciated her help after my first was born far more than the time leading up to her birth. That was more boredom alleviation

[Fuzzywuzzy]

I think it depends on your relationship with your mum like Jellyfish said. I am also really close to my mum and although my parents lived 1,000kms away they both took 3 weeks annual leave around the time DD was due and came to visit. They were there for 1 week before she was born and it was fantastic! Dad and DF would go and do the groceries and the washing and mum did all of the cooking and cleaning. I am forever grateful that I was lucky enough to spend this special time with them and that they were so helpful and not intrusive at all.

[sloane]

i saw my mum a little more than usual, but that was only because i wasn't at work & they'd moved a 5 minute drive away. i certainly didn't spend heaps of time there & absolutely loved my mat leave. DP was home as well & we had 7 weeks of bliss - i slept whenever i felt like it, pottered round the house, went to the shops, went out for lunch if we felt like it, watched late night tv...dvds etc. it was so relaxing.

i mean, it was nice knowing my mum was close by but i didn't really feel the need to see her any more than usual!

[Miss.September]

Mum lives about 15 minutes away and we probably see each other 1 - 2 times a week. I love it. We have a great relationship.

The hardest bit for me is that my parents booked a six month trip around the world, and a week later I found out I was pregnant, due two weeks after they left They couldn't change the trip as it was frequent flyers and they would've lost their points. So off they went....and I gave birth one week later. Mum flew home two weeks after DD was born to meet her, stayed for 9 days and then returned when DD was almost six months old. It was the hardest six months of my life. I was incredibly lonely, DD has hip dysplaysia so we spent a lot of time at home and my friends were working during the week and didn't want to be around on the weekends. So yeah, love my mum and glad I can see her whenever we want.

[willow5]

I couldn't think of anything worse either! I like my own space and my own thoughts, specially getting ready for a big life change like that.
So definitely not the only nut job hermit. People thought I was weird too not needing/wanting constant company and attention, but that's just not me, I don't like being fluffed over either But each to their own.

[HotI]

I couldn't think of anything worse either!

My MIL hanging around- 10 x worse!