impending motherhood

[sconeonamission]

hi!
I'm not sure whether I need to put this in here, or in the labour section. Feel free to move it!

The more overdue I go, the more time I have to think of all the things that can go wrong. I'm freaking out that something bad is going to happen. For a while now, I've been worried that my baby is going to be still born. I don't say it to the midwives or doctors, coz they'll think I'm just being silly, and I've been on the ctg machines when I go in and they seem to think its a happy baby.
I also worry that its going to have its cord wrapped around its neck, and me giving birth vaginally is going to make matters worse by strangling it. One of our friends had her baby, cord wrapped round her neck and she wasnt' breathing and someone asked them if they'd like a preist to come in and say last rites.
Before I was pregnant, I had a problem with anaemia (low iron levels) and both my husband and i are a little worried about losing a lot of blood and something happening to me. Another friend, with her 2nd haemorraged quite badly after her birth that they almost lost the mother. She doesn't remember a thing, but the doctors and nurses were very worried.
I also don't want to wait too long to have this baby with complications that can arise with the placenta detoriating after so much time. I've got an induction date, but really don't want to have to go that far.
These are just some of my issues, along with fearing the pain (now that I've actually heard a woman in labour) or giving birth at home or in the carpark at the hospital.

I just don't know what to think, or how to get around these issues. The babys already frustrating so many ppl by being late - Are you still pregnant? - and I'd hate to add disappointment to that.

Any suggestions? (sorry this is long, needed to air it!)

[Ozstar]

Scone, I really dont know what to say but just wanted to send you a . Hopefully your baby wont be to far away and your mind can be put to rest. I am sure it is normal to worry about yourself and your baby before labour. Try to relax (I know easier said then done) and not think about it to much.

[monnie]

Rhianon...I think what you are feeling is really normal...being a bit overdue myself, I'm feeling the same...

It's almost like you have too much time 'to think' about the 'what ifs....'

I've been worrying more about all the things that can go wrong...but just keep saying to myself "I'm going to believe that everything is fine, until I know otherwise!"

I'm trying to be really quick to catch the negative 'what if...' thoughts before they settle too much in my mind...

It really won't be long now...just think, in a week's time, we'll be thinking back at these posts with new babies in our arms!