It took DH a while to get that sex was not enjoyable for me as I experienced alot of pain, particularly now in the later stages. So I made a point to have what I call 'cuddle nights'. I give him a massage or just stroke his back and he does the same for me. It's not so much about physical release but accepting that we are both at a changing time in our lives but still having time to connect.
I know for me I felt guilty for a while because I had no interest what so ever in any type of sexual experience but DH did so for a long time I just did what ever to 'keep him happy' but I thought at the same time I wasn't being fair to me either. So we talk about it now. If I'm in the mood to give him a hand so to speak, I can't have intercourse now too painful, I do but when Im keen otherwise it becomes a chore for me.
I hope you find an answer to your problem that works for both of you but remember that you are growing a baby and so much is happening to you already. Don't be afraid to let your partner know that right now he is your main support person and part of his role now is to help ease your worries and concern so include him in the process of finding answers. Don't forget pregnancy doesn't last for ever.
All the best.![]()




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