I had some very good midwives and some terrific midwives in my labours. The 1st was excellent, even had an argument with her DH as she had to stay after her shift to be with me. My 2nd midwife was very good, my 3rd was also very good and my 4th was excellent.

But there was 1 midwife in the hospital everytime I had a bub, who we called dragon lady, and I hated her. With my 1st she was really pushy and insensitive to me and made my attempt at brfeeding very negative. She would put cold facewashers on Jordan's head to try to calm her down so she would go on the breast and to me that just wasn't going to work. She would grab my breast and twist and push me and I felt very abused/violated. I was 19 yrs old and I think that was part of her attitude towards me. She wasn't quite as bad when I went in with my 2nd but I was 25 then and I don't think she judged me at that age.

I did notice a diff in the way I was treated by 1 midwife when I had my 3rd, she had no time for me, not even to chat and ask how I was, as I wasn't br feeding and the other 2 girls were. So she would sit one their beds waffling away and then just give me a flick of the wrist as she left.

Strangely enough when I booked into the hosp to have my 4th she did the paperwork, was very nice about everything including my decision to bottlefeed from day 1, and she was leaving to go on mat leave herself. Wonder if the hormones and the fact that it was her last day had anything to do with it.

Cheers Michelle