Thankyou ladies your advice sounds good and as muchas it will make me feel like a crapy mum i have to let the DH and inlaws take over a little more for some reason it just makes me feel uneasy to watch the inlaws take over it make me feel like im not good enough or that they think im just not as good at the mummy stuff as they are or maybe its just the hormones. The powder between the legs is great idea i have been doing for a while now you can buy Johnsons and johnson with cornstarch and one with lavender i love them both and use them everywhere when i come out of the shower im just a big powder lol lol lol .

luv ya's kittykat