Well I am one of those ladies in the '80's birthing videos!!!
I took no offense but it always makes me giggle that pubic hair is seen as yucky!!! Why is that??? It's part of growing to woman hood and personally I find the brazillian as odd as you find the hair !!!!
It's all good - no birthing assistant would ever judge you on your lack of hair or sporting the full growth of your years. It all works the same hair or no hair!!!
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Sorry, but I'm having a chuckle at those who say they couldn't imagine giving birth while being excessively hairy..........trust me ladies, you will not be thinking about that, or worrying about it while you're giving birth! Not saying you shouldn't wax, if that's what you do then go for it. But honestly, don't worry about how you're going to feel about it while giving birth
Deb, that's me too!!!! I don't mind a trim, but I think brazillians are, hmmm, not for me
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No midwife or OB will judge or even care if you have all hair or no hair!! It is not a topic of conversation on tea breaks!
Its personal choice, do what feels right for you.
I couldn't bring myself to do my own waxing when pregnant as became sensitive to doing it ... and besides i couldn't see a darn thing past my lovely pregnant belly... So, i used VEET cream whenever necessary (like especially on my due date too) & it worked wonders, nice no pain
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Thanks for bringing it back to the point Feeb, I don't think any of us were trimming up for the OB or midwives benefits, at least I wasn't! It's for my benefit for godsake!! I feel yuk with too much hair down there, I'm not saying it's yuk to be hairy, I just don't like it on me! And getting a wax doesn't automatically equal brazillian either - it's a quick way to trim up too.
I am really sorry if I too offended anyone with my comments. I wax every six week to keep things trim all over and have done so for many years. I don't plan on stopping now but more than anything, I'm not doing it to impress those who will be witnessing the birth of my child, that's for sure. I just don't like to be hairy and this is possibly how Emmy feels too.
I don't think you offended anyone Taurean -
"I get waxed every 6 weeks but like you, definitely couldn't stand the thought of sporting an excessively hairy muff while giving birth - yuk!"
That did sound like you think it's yucky... That's all good we all have our thing.
I think those that don't wax were sharing their perspective just as those who do were...
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Thanks Flowerchild. I definitely didn't mean to offend anyone and I am so sorry if I did. I think 'my' girls (and other various areas of my body for that matter!) are yuk when hairy but I'm not fussed about anyone elses hair levels, that's for sure!I don't think you offended anyone Taurean -
"I get waxed every 6 weeks but like you, definitely couldn't stand the thought of sporting an excessively hairy muff while giving birth - yuk!"
That did sound like you think it's yucky... That's all good we all have our thing.
I think those that don't wax were sharing their perspective just as those who do were...
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As for waxing - I am one of those people that has a problem with someone else doing that, I have tried doing it myself but ended up with monster bruises and I hate in grown hairs with a passion. Its not a modesty thing its just someone I don't know being soo darn close to my bits really
Maybe go for an airstrip so that you feel better about yourself down there but the areas close to your vagina do not have the open pores or ingrown hairs iykwim??
Nae x
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You certainly seem upset by my response Taurean I was merely clarifying that it wasn't "yuk" or unclean to have hair down there and I was very careful in my post not to use words that make waxing seem like a negative choice. I certainly avoided being emotional and using words like "godsake" that also could be offensive. I think this thread raises some interesting points and is probably a better discussion if people don't use emotive words when tact should be called for. You say that it is your personal thoughts but the language you used did make a value judgement on birthing with a hairy pubic area
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Can I put it down to 38 weeks pregnant, very hormonal and being quite sensitive at the moment? I just couldn't believe that my comment would be seen as offensive. I am truly sorry girls. I've never gotten angry in a BB threadYou certainly seem upset by my response Taurean I was merely clarifying that it wasn't "yuk" or unclean to have hair down there and I was very careful in my post not to use words that make waxing seem like a negative choice. I certainly avoided being emotional and using words like "godsake" that also could be offensive. I think this thread raises some interesting points and is probably a better discussion if people don't use emotive words when tact should be called for. You say that it is your personal thoughts but the language you used did make a value judgement on birthing with a hairy pubic area
Last edited by Taurean; September 2nd, 2009 at 04:37 PM.
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oh what have i started
i think it is clear that everyone's thoughts are different, but at the end of the day we all agree that it is a personal choice. i think we are all just trying to give our thoughts on what 'we' prefer.. but i'm sure none of us are fussed or passing judgement on the choice of others. sometimes the way we write things can be misconstrued because there is no intonation...which i'm sure is the case here.
the issue for me was more health related... is it really a bad thing to get waxed? i know some ppl hate the look, the feel, others love it.. for me a brazilian is just about easy maintenance..but i'm not really that fussed about not getting it done if it is a bit of a health hazard or is going to impede healing of any tears etc.
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Hi all
Just another thought about whether to have one or not. Even if you are a long time waxer (if thats actually a real word) would it be more painful closer to birth given that a lot of women experience swelling in the area (due to I think extra blood flow)?
While I don't get brazillians done I do get waxed every 4-6 weeks and am now trying to time my next tidy up so will be as neat as possible for birth. Have been wondering if it would be more painful - normally doesn't hurt atall as I've been waxing for years and years.
Can anyone give any insights into what their past experiences have been?
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it does seem that the majority of people on bb regard pubic hair as not natural, something to be gotten rid of, not clean etc.
i believe in personal choice, and my choice was to leave things alone.
My homebirth ended up being a emergency c-section in a hospital, with glaring lights, and ten strangers staring at me on the operating table, after two epidurals, i just didn't care anymore.
but just before the emergency c-section, it did cross my mind, would a midwife come along and shave off my pubic hair, as part of prepping me for a c=section? but that fear was unfounded, nothing happened. The c-section is WELL above where the pubic hair is.
i trim to suit myself, but i don't regard my pubic hair as scary or unclean. I found it much harder to trim when there was a big pregnant belly in front, and if i can't see what i'm doing, that sounds too risky to me, so i left it alone.
Hadn't paid it much attention, and then i started reading all these thread titles about "waxing for delivery", that's the only time i felt weird.
i would hope there would be room on this forum for varying points of view.
I could not bring myself to put the harsh chemicals in products like Veet, near my body, especially when pregnant. i don't trust the ingredients. That's my personal thing.
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I am used to a brazilian and in planning water births, I prefer to be 'streamlined'...but I've always liked that non-friction feeling when in water (I've grown up swimming and actually having 'excess' bikini hair gave me no joy at all, then I had the 'excess' lasered and have a far more managable bikini line left to wax)Also, SOOOOO much nicer for horse-riding!
So, if you want it, go for it.
I'm getting mine done tomorrow
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Totally agree. - I too have waxed everything for the last 10 years so being pregnant wasnt going to change it for me! I had my last wax 3 days before i gave birth
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I agree with waxing because I want to feel as nice as I can during a pretty hard time! If I don't get the chance to wax I will quickly trim (or DH will do it cause I can't!) in the shower just so it's tidy. It's part of my big tidy up before baby comes anyway!
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i wont wax (mainly coz i couldnt bear the pain) maybe after childbirth ill give it a go
im a shaver normally but the last few months have let it goi probably wont shave before she's due, just get DH to trim it with a pair of clippers, mainly coz since its been such a long time sincxe i have shaved ill probly end up with ingrown hairs, and if not that the itching will drive me insane and its something that i dont want to have to put up with around that time lol.
I dont think hair is bad, its all personal choice.
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Hi
This is such a funny discussion..I only say that as I have just gone and had what is called an extended bikini line for the first time. Someone gave me the link in a another thread I am in I had posted what I had just done. I have had two previous births with stitches and the bleeding is quite heavy and usually get a tidy up only. A friend reccommended an extended as she said it was a bit easier after birth if you have stitches and also for the bleeding..
My beautician was very aware and had the bed up on an angle so I wasn't flat..I would pass out if I lay flat on my back at the moment. I remember the first time with my 1st DS...I was actually due and she said she could tell as the temperature in between your thighs increases? She was very serious
Good luck with your decision....my husband was very funny. I told him what I had done and he asked "did I do that for the OG?"
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