To wax or not to wax!

[NaeNae]

I personally am not too worried about how I look "down there" because I cannot see anything I have always just gone for the trim and shave thing myself but I haven't so much as done my legs let alone anything else in months - yes I am totally ferral I have asked DH to help with the trimming but until he does I am not gunna bother.

As for waxing - I am one of those people that has a problem with someone else doing that, I have tried doing it myself but ended up with monster bruises and I hate in grown hairs with a passion. Its not a modesty thing its just someone I don't know being soo darn close to my bits really

Maybe go for an airstrip so that you feel better about yourself down there but the areas close to your vagina do not have the open pores or ingrown hairs iykwim??

Nae x

[Emmykate82]

oh what have i started

i think it is clear that everyone's thoughts are different, but at the end of the day we all agree that it is a personal choice. i think we are all just trying to give our thoughts on what 'we' prefer.. but i'm sure none of us are fussed or passing judgement on the choice of others. sometimes the way we write things can be misconstrued because there is no intonation...which i'm sure is the case here.

the issue for me was more health related... is it really a bad thing to get waxed? i know some ppl hate the look, the feel, others love it.. for me a brazilian is just about easy maintenance..but i'm not really that fussed about not getting it done if it is a bit of a health hazard or is going to impede healing of any tears etc.

[Bathsheba]

That's ok Taurean. And maybe today I'm being a bit too sensitive We all have our reasons and preferences and that's ok. I grew up with a very judgemental mother when it came to body hair. She was very vocal and used to publically tease me and she even bullied other women by calling them unclean etc if they didn't shave the parts of their body that she shaved. My mother couldn't stand the fact that the lady next door didn't shave her armpits. She used to gossip about her to anyone who would listen and even used to cut out deodorant ads and put them in her letter box. the woman didn't smell, she just chose not to shave. I felt soooo sorry for this woman and it's really stuck with with me. Mum also made fun of my hairy legs etc when i hit puberty. So I guess I'm super sensitive to any perceived attack between women regarding body hair. I just didn't want this thread giving me "mother-flash-backs"

ETA: yep, the thread title is "to wax or not to wax" and I thought both tactful opinions were welcome.

[Taurean]

sometimes the way we write things can be misconstrued because there is no intonation...which i'm sure is the case here.

Yes, this is very true. Hopefully we're all on the same page now (and I've managed to back myself out of my comments, LOL!)

the issue for me was more health related... is it really a bad thing to get waxed? i know some ppl hate the look, the feel, others love it.. for me a brazilian is just about easy maintenance..but i'm not really that fussed about not getting it done if it is a bit of a health hazard or is going to impede healing of any tears etc.

I honestly wouldn't have thought that it would be a health issue being waxed but maybe Bath is right, due to the increased likelihood of ingrown hairs. Might be best to double check with a beautician to be sure. My beautician has several pregnant clients at the moment and hasn't mentioned it being an issue and I did discuss it with my OB a while back too and his words were 'do what you like down there' so he wasn't concerned at all. Ingrown hairs can be nasty and do get infected so if you're prone to them maybe a trim with the scissors would be a safer option. I'm not really sure though

[Taurean]

That's ok Taurean. And maybe today I'm being a bit too sensitive We all have our reasons and preferences and that's ok. I grew up with a very judgemental mother when it came to body hair. She was very vocal and used to publically tease me and she even bullied other women by calling them unclean etc if they didn't shave the parts of their body that she shaved. My mother couldn't stand the fact that the lady next door didn't shave her armpits. She used to gossip about her to anyone who would listen and even used to cut out deodorant ads and put them in her letter box. the woman didn't smell, she just chose not to shave. I felt soooo sorry for this woman and it's really stuck with with me. Mum also made fun of my hairy legs etc when i hit puberty. So I guess I'm super sensitive to any perceived attack between women regarding body hair. I just didn't want this thread giving me "mother-flash-backs"

ETA: yep, the thread title is "to wax or not to wax" and I thought both tactful opinions were welcome.

It's any wonder you made the comments you did then and rightfully so! I'm so sorry you had to go through that and completely understand why you would be sensitive to these things AND supportive of women with hair. Thanks for sharing and sorry you had to in order to get your point across. I remember my mum telling me to 'suck my tummy in' several times during early puberty and I strongly believe to this day it's why I'm so paranoid about my stomach and weight gain in that area (Oh, except for now. I quite like the excessive tummy I'm sporting right now, LOL). I love my mum to bits but some mums really don't realise how those sort of comments during puberty really can affect us girls for life.

[~Gee_Whizzy~]

I'm not saying it's yuk to be hairy, I just don't like it on me!

I am really sorry if I too offended anyone with my comments. I wax every six week to keep things trim all over and have done so for many years. I don't plan on stopping now but more than anything, I'm not doing it to impress those who will be witnessing the birth of my child, that's for sure. I just don't like to be hairy.

Totally agree. - I too have waxed everything for the last 10 years so being pregnant wasnt going to change it for me! I had my last wax 3 days before i gave birth - do what's comfortable for you

[CrazyLady]

I personally am not too worried about how I look "down there" because I cannot see anything I have always just gone for the trim and shave thing myself

It was the last thing on my mind because i couldn't see past my gorgeous (miss my prego belly) belly !
I say it's a matter of choice and last thing i think about is people's preference on downstairs grooming.

Veet is amazing!

[YoYo]

I am not a waxer myself as I am MEGGA hairy and have been told by a beautician not to bother! I just opt for the trim....

I DID however, wax prior to having DS nearly 2 years ago (and that was the last time ) and was told not to do it too close to giving birth because of infection. I did it a couple of weeks before my due date and he ended up being a week overdue too (so I'm pretty sure it was back to messy down there, although I couldn't see it). I guess once the hairs are ripped out of their little follicles, they are left OPEN and all the goobies that go on down there at the time of giving birth could get in maybe!?

[demongrrl23]

I normally get the landscaping done when I can and I go the full hog...however I am ALWAYS warned afterwards not to DTD for 24 hours after due to the hair follicles being left open and at risk of infection...so bearing this in mind it actually crossed my mind to NOT have it done before heading off to give birth because I always have that risk of infection warning in my mind....I will get a trim but that will be about it

[shazdee]

I've always had a g-string wax and got one a week before my due date. Not because I cared what anyone else thought, but because I knew once DD arrived it would be the last thing on my mind and it may be a while before I would have time to get waxed again. However DD arrived 12 days late so I don't know why I bothered, I was right back where I started from!

[Emma1979]

where exactly can you use that veet cream??? i'm not very hairy on the map of tassie part, but the hair underneath really annoys me, its probably more where my thigh joins my hmmmmm, bits.... right on the knickers line in the underneath section and backwards to my bum.... could i really use the veet cream there? wow. i hate getting waxed so this could be an option. veeters please reply!

[Miss E]

Aaaaahhh I was so worried that I would go into labor before I got my wax done, or worse have my waters break while I was getting a wax... I ended up going for a wax at about 38 weeks because I thought that it would help me feel a lot more comfortable bearing my bits on the big day. I didn't get a brazillian though, just a tidy up, because I figure that if I had to have stitches (any even if I didn't) things would be pretty tender down there and the last thing I would want to do is exfoliate. In the end I had an emergency CS, I didn't exfoliate for three or four weeks after (I was too scared to) and ended up with a couple of nasty ingrowns so I'm glad I didn't get it all done cos I think it would have been much worse.

[JordieC]

I agree with waxing because I want to feel as nice as I can during a pretty hard time! If I don't get the chance to wax I will quickly trim (or DH will do it cause I can't!) in the shower just so it's tidy. It's part of my big tidy up before baby comes anyway!

[Stevie]

i wont wax (mainly coz i couldnt bear the pain) maybe after childbirth ill give it a go
im a shaver normally but the last few months have let it go i probably wont shave before she's due, just get DH to trim it with a pair of clippers, mainly coz since its been such a long time sincxe i have shaved ill probly end up with ingrown hairs, and if not that the itching will drive me insane and its something that i dont want to have to put up with around that time lol.
I dont think hair is bad, its all personal choice.

[~me~]

Hi

This is such a funny discussion..I only say that as I have just gone and had what is called an extended bikini line for the first time. Someone gave me the link in a another thread I am in I had posted what I had just done. I have had two previous births with stitches and the bleeding is quite heavy and usually get a tidy up only. A friend reccommended an extended as she said it was a bit easier after birth if you have stitches and also for the bleeding..

My beautician was very aware and had the bed up on an angle so I wasn't flat..I would pass out if I lay flat on my back at the moment. I remember the first time with my 1st DS...I was actually due and she said she could tell as the temperature in between your thighs increases? She was very serious

Good luck with your decision....my husband was very funny. I told him what I had done and he asked "did I do that for the OG?"..so I had to explain why

Heather

[berrme]

I think some people decide they should start just before they have a baby as their bits will be on display more than usual and getting waxed when you haven't done so before is more of a problem than getting your usual wax done close to your due date. New waxers are more likely to get ingrown hairs etc and have a tender area for longer than seasoned waxers.

I am not a waxer myself, but do whatever makes you feel better before and after labour. You really won't care during it.

[Smoke Jaguar]

Yeah, I don't think I'd recommend a new waxer begin just before birth! Unless they had a container of MooGoo Post Wax cream
Even then, I have got an ingrown now from a wax from months ago that's been refusing to come close enough to attach...and I'm a brazilian waxer from before DS's birth! It's the first real ingrown problem I've had there since I was a teenager (had an abcessed follicle in the 'crease' that joins the thigh on the front of the pubic bone and made wearing conventional undies very uncomfy!).

[Now we're 3]

Hi all

Just another thought about whether to have one or not. Even if you are a long time waxer (if thats actually a real word ) would it be more painful closer to birth given that a lot of women experience swelling in the area (due to I think extra blood flow)?

While I don't get brazillians done I do get waxed every 4-6 weeks and am now trying to time my next tidy up so will be as neat as possible for birth. Have been wondering if it would be more painful - normally doesn't hurt atall as I've been waxing for years and years.

Can anyone give any insights into what their past experiences have been?