thread: What do you class as too much?

  1. #1

    Jul 2009
    Out North, Vic
    8,538

    What do you class as too much?

    Everyone keeps telling me i need to SLOW DOWN, rest a little and take it easy but i just can't.. i know if i stop i wont get started again.

    As an example this week goes as follows:
    Mon - 9:20 need to be at an appt 40min away to get the carseats fitted, so will get DD up, fed, showered and head off by 8:40.
    ON the way home have to stop at every shopping centre until i find RICE FLOUR, get home clean and tidy before a friend from school and her little girl come round.
    Cook tea, bake shortbread and stained glass x-mas cookies for MG on Tues.

    Tues - MG girls coming for lunch, need to vac and dust the lounge, tidy the dining area etc, clean both toilets and the bathroom.
    Then obviously cater for 10+ women and children.

    Wed - OB appt 45min away, then have to stop and see a friend from work who not long had her 1st baby, come home and sort and fold all of #2's clothes and move furniture in my room to fit the basinette etc again.

    Sat - Stepmum and Dad coming with little brothers to do x-mas pressies, putting on a BBQ, sat night possibly BBQ at DP's cousins.

    Sun - Mum & Stepdad coming with 2 brothers, staying until the wed b4 x-mas.

    Obviously in b/w all this i vac and dust every 2nd day, do the dishes and stack the dishwasher every day, generally do 2-4 loads of washing every 2nd day, tidy and chase DD EVERY day, cook tea every night etc etc.

    All the girls at MG tell me i need to slow down and rest more, they can't believe how quickly i move for someone that has just under 4wks left and that i act as though i am not even PG.
    They all wanted to bring something to MG on tues instead of me catering.. are you kidding? i'm hosting so i will host!

    Am i doing too much? i'm pregnant i'm not disabled is all i can say.

    The only time i have felt tired etc is when DD is sick or teething, otherwise i feel normal and fine, that said this baby is taking a lot of room and energy at the moment as DD is teething... hmmmm

    I had 3 ppl comment today that i was NUTS for going to a major shopping centre to do some final x-mas shopping with so little time left..... my answer was... i had to get DD's roller coaster!

    Sorry prob not making much sense, am i doing to much? when should i slow down? do i need to slow down? when did you slow down?

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Dec 2008
    8,986

    I didn't slow down until I was giving birth either. You've gotta do what has to be done pregnant or not. When you've already got kids and are pregnant life is alot more hectic. I remember when i was pregnant with my first I had loads of time to relax but with my other 2 pregnancies I was flat out all day every day, I'm surprised I had time to sleep lol.

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    The Purple House, Sydney
    1,811

    Hun, I powered on like a trooper until about a week before dd was born. then I just got this urge to sleep- every time ds napped, i would too. Did me the world of good

    But, no, I would say not too much, if you feel ok, then soldier on

  4. #4

    Jul 2009
    Out North, Vic
    8,538

    thank god... here i was thinking i am going nuts or something.

    With DD i worked up until about 1.5wks before i had her and then when i got home from work i packed boxes to move and kicked them along the floor to the spare room... we moved 2 days b4 she was born... i unpacked boxes in those 2 days... hehe

    I just feel bad as another mum @ MG is 12wks behind me and she is buggered, has no energy etc etc... she's half my size (weight wise and i wish i was as tiny as her) and she just wants to sit and do nothing... she doesn't know how i do it and says i make it look easy??????

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Feb 2008
    Near the Snowies!
    2,975

    You sound busy!!

    But if you feel fine and that you can/want to do things, and your pg is also going ok then I don't see any reason why you should stop doing what you normally do. As you said, you're pregnant, not an invalid! If you were feeling exhausted and stressed out etc then that would be your body telling you that you need to slow down, you will know if you need to start taking it a bit easy.

    And yep, you gotta do what you gotta do, life goes on and you have your DD to run around after, little kids stop for no one!

  6. #6
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2009
    Qld
    367

    I think if you are handling it fine then go for it, just listen to what your body needs and take a break if you want it. Good on you for not using it as an excuse, we are just pregnant not disabled. I know people who milk it and use every excuse under the sun to get out of doing things, like cant carry the basket of washing to the line and put arms above their heads and stuff because it can twist the umbilical cord wt????

    Everybody and every pregnancy is different. My first I was studying full time and was a mad hatter nester and clean freak for months. This one I have already finished studying for the year, DD keeps me on my toes but I have sacrolliac joint dysfunction so I cant go like I feel I want to, it drives me insane that there are things to be done (in my head anyway) because it gets to the point where I cant go anymore because I cant physically handle the pain or walk.

    Getting sidetracked, but anyway, you go girl.

  7. #7
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    The Purple House, Sydney
    1,811

    Forgot to add before, but my mw reckons women who are really active during their pregnancy (as opposed to sitting round on the lounge) have much easier, faster labours and births. So maybe you should slow down a bit hun- you might make it to the hospital that way (joking, you know I'm joking )

  8. #8

    Jul 2009
    Out North, Vic
    8,538

    Forgot to add before, but my mw reckons women who are really active during their pregnancy (as opposed to sitting round on the lounge) have much easier, faster labours and births. So maybe you should slow down a bit hun- you might make it to the hospital that way (joking, you know I'm joking )
    Oh your a funny one this evening aren't you!
    Maybe thats why A didn't want to wait, i was so busy packing and unpacking she just wanted to get out of that rollercoaster ride... might explain her evil kanevil attitude

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Oct 2006
    Perth
    3,299

    Not crazy Avasmum! If you're feeling up to it all (obviously you are!) then go with it. I've been the same, have something planned every day. Today I had to do some Christmas shopping and spent 5 hours out at the shops. Tomorrow, though I am doing nothing, staying at home because from Tuesday until Christmas, I've got things to do every single day on top of the usual housework etc.

    So, yeah, keep doing what you feel comfortable with. At least you're not sitting around the house waiting and waiting! But do make sure you give yourself a bit of time out to put your feet up and relax before #2 comes

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Sep 2006
    the mulberry bush
    895

    its a busy time of year...

    the only thing i have drawn the line on is long distance driving.... i have said no to a few family party invitations due to the fact that it would involve 3 hours of driving, and when i did that recently i found it hard to keep my eyes open on the way home.... so thats the only thing i've decided not to do now that i have 4 weeks to go...

    other than that its all systems go... personally i think when you are already a mum, it is pretty hard to slow down.... where as when you are pregnant with your first baby, you have loads of time to relax!

  11. #11
    BellyBelly Member
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    Dec 2008
    Paradise. QLD
    2,288

    same all systems go here aswell
    just not leaving the area so no more drives down the mountain and the likes staying within 20 min of the hospital now.

    still running around liek a chicken with its head cut off lol.

    this week i have been baking and cleaning and washing and moving things and just trying to keep busy mainly so i dont sit around counting hours till my due date lol

  12. #12
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    Jul 2008
    Forest Lake - Brisbane
    919

    Why stop???
    Like you I am on the go all the time and I will continue to do so right up until I give birth I imagine.
    I have four boys on school holidays at the moment anyway so not alot of chances for a rest but I also figure if I stop I am just going to think about what needs to be done, what I should be doing or what I could be doing.
    I still have 10 weeks to go but I cant imagine sitting around waiting for 10 weeks I would seriously drive myself insane so no thanks.
    As long as you arent pushing yourself and you are still feeling good do what you want and dont listen to anyone else. You know what you are capable of and its your body that will tell you to stop when you need too.
    Oh and the rice flour is at Woolworths. It comes in a little box by all the baking stuff I think it was.