Last pg, I wouldn't have had an issue. I was still working, getting myself to and from appointments, not a sign of prelabour on the horizon, no noticeable BH and I was feeling quite good by then!
This pg, totally different story. I would *not* be cool with him going, and TBH I would resent feeling like I even needed to spell that out to him ... I would much rather he tell me about this wonderful honour he has received, and what a shame it is he won't be able to go to the ceremony because it's in another hemisphere and goes for five days, when I'm at the end of my pregnancy ...
If it was something for work which he had to go on, and our livelihood depended on it, etc, or if he had a job which required travel etc and that was part of the package I'd bought into with him, I would understand and suck it up - but for something which is a perk, I wouldn't want him gone for that long at that stage, leaving me alone with an almost 3 and not quite newborn, with all the trimmings of a 35 week preggo lady.
I would be sad for him missing it, but he has already won the glory and recognition, maybe they can Skype him in to accept the award (like the Oscars) and while it would be sad to miss out on the trip itself, work perks need to come second to you.
In a years time, which will he be more proud of - being there to accept the accolades, or being a good husband and father?
I understand that it's likely a once in a lifetime opportunity, but so is what will be going on back at home ...
If however he does opt to go, and you choose to support him, I'd definitely be making plans to have hired assistance if there isn't family around. Pre-planned meals, delivered shopping, daycare or some babysitting, a cleaner, etc. I know it's only 5 days but whatever you can plan in advance so that you don't have to stress and run around while he's gone, the better. Bustling around at the shops with 35 weeks of belly and a 3yo trying to get the bits and pieces needed for dinner or nappies or whatever without assistance is not going to make you any happier or calmer when he gets home.
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) of dragging a 2.5yo over there for 5 days while DH is off partying. That would so not appeal to me either. My DH is a diver and goes across to Mt Gambier (SA - we are in Melb) for diving weekends a couple of times a year. He keeps telling me I should come too but it is much the same, I would get the delight of looking after two kidlets while he is off having fun diving. No thanks, it is easier to just stay home!
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