I pulled her out - any ideas as to what now?

[Jennifer13]

This is a bit out of left field, but do you have a trusted friend or family member with a child around the same age that you could 'swap' care with?

For two years, my DD went to a friend's house one day and we had my friend's child the next day. My DD is an only child and (while she did attend preschool and didn't have the separation issues you talked about) this was really helpful in terms of learning to share her space, toys and managing her emotions when another child was there. It also helped my friend and I - me for work, her for some time alone with her new baby. Obviously she'd already been around my friend and her child plenty previously, for morning tea and catch ups, etc.

Just an idea...