I think sometimes we have to make decisions our children aten't always going to like but in the long run is what is best for them. My concern is that if the current teacher and school aren't taking you seriously now then they probably never will.
In years to come your DD probably won't remember much about this school if you do decide to switch schools.
IMO, your DD is too young to grasp the implications of the decision to change schools. For her, it will be about going somewhere different each day and getting to know a new group of kids. For you, the issues are far more complicated and the considerations are far more long term. I think that this is a decision for you and your DH to make and if you decide to move your DD then you tell her in the most positive way. If she is upset by your decision, I would simply tell her that 'mummy and daddy have made this decision because we think it is what's best for you', and then I would talk about all the positive aspects of her new school.
I know other's will disagree, but I think that not-quite-5 is not old enough to have much input into this decision making process.
I think that it is disgusting the double standards and I would be changing her school. A 5 year old knows no difference she has only been at that school and wont be aware that things can be nicer and better somewhere else. I think that for her own good and self esteem you might just have to change her school even thought she is not keen.
I would make the decision without her input too. If you think the other school is better then I would move her and present it in a positive way, but in a way that suggests that there isn't even a choice.
It's nice you've asked her input, but move her anyway.
FWIW, we moved DS from a lovely school to a slightly rougher one when we moved house. I really didn't like my 5yo saying "oh my god, that's so cool" or hitting. I mean, yes, he sometimes hits, it's rare but it has been known to happen, but not vindictivly. Until now (has now stopped). It took him a little while to get settled and, despite being bullied, didn't want to go. He had just made a friend.
So we had a week of him being upset and unsettled when we did move schools (a place was suddenly made available locally). He is now happy in his new school, settling in and enjoying it a lot more without 5yo bullies. The thing that made DS feel better about moving is that he made friends with a little boy also at the school, the year above him, and I told DS they could see each other at playtime. But I don't know what I'd have done without his friend already being there! Can you take your DD to the Catholic Church, if they have a Sunday School, so she can meet potential classmates and have a friend before she starts?
thanks everyone!
We have our interview in 2 hours, have gone through a million outfits (for all of us lol!)
I talked to her a bit last night about it - and i do agree her understand is very limited - she is happy to get a teacher lol!!!
but i showed her pictures of the principle we would be meeting and told her he is very friendly and i showed her photos of the classrooms (which had the kids using ipads and touches ) and she really like computers so got excited.
hopefully i will be able to take her on a tour today after our interview.
i am hoping as well with a different set of children and rules within the catholic system that the bullying will be handled better x
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teacher lol!!!
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