Involving your child in the decision to change schools

[meow]

I would make the decision without her input too. If you think the other school is better then I would move her and present it in a positive way, but in a way that suggests that there isn't even a choice.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

It's nice you've asked her input, but move her anyway.

FWIW, we moved DS from a lovely school to a slightly rougher one when we moved house. I really didn't like my 5yo saying "oh my god, that's so cool" or hitting. I mean, yes, he sometimes hits, it's rare but it has been known to happen, but not vindictivly. Until now (has now stopped). It took him a little while to get settled and, despite being bullied, didn't want to go. He had just made a friend.

So we had a week of him being upset and unsettled when we did move schools (a place was suddenly made available locally). He is now happy in his new school, settling in and enjoying it a lot more without 5yo bullies. The thing that made DS feel better about moving is that he made friends with a little boy also at the school, the year above him, and I told DS they could see each other at playtime. But I don't know what I'd have done without his friend already being there! Can you take your DD to the Catholic Church, if they have a Sunday School, so she can meet potential classmates and have a friend before she starts?

[PinkPalace]

thanks everyone!
We have our interview in 2 hours, have gone through a million outfits (for all of us lol!)
I talked to her a bit last night about it - and i do agree her understand is very limited - she is happy to get a teacher lol!!!

but i showed her pictures of the principle we would be meeting and told her he is very friendly and i showed her photos of the classrooms (which had the kids using ipads and touches ) and she really like computers so got excited.

hopefully i will be able to take her on a tour today after our interview.

i am hoping as well with a different set of children and rules within the catholic system that the bullying will be handled better x

[littlelara]

Hope it all goes well today

[Purple Penguin]

'he does that though' is NOT an excuse for bullying... EVER!

It's not good enough and quite frankly the sooner you can get her out of there the better, you don't want her at a school where bullying is rationalised like that, there are no excuses, it shouldn't happen.

The teacher and the Principal are NOT doing their jobs properly if these things are being overlooked, as I said in your other thread, you need to report them to the D.O.E, something needs to change there and it's obviously not going to happen from within the school.

It's her safety and health and wellbeing that is at stake, if it were me, I'd be moving her anyway.

[sangie]

Wow I'm shocked at the 'he does that though' comment. Not good enough!

Best of luck with your interview. I think most schools do a 'buddy' system for new students which might be comforting to your DD and help her to make friends.

[PinkPalace]

Hope it all goes well today

Well we are back!!!
and omg im in love with this school!!!
the principal started talking about how he noursishes holistic education and that he wants my daughter to grow as a person not just an academic.
i was actually trying to hold back tears as sad as that sounds.

We have been accepted and i was not sure whether to start her next term , but DD said she wants to go monday and doesnt want to go back to ****! so there you go!

it was beautiful and so collobrative make me want to go back to school myself!