So was there any reason why you thought he would do better at school than being homeschooled? Some kids just don't do well in mainstream schools. I do agree, that is an appalling way to treat him and speak to you. I think he needs a bit of time to adjust to the whole concept of going to a mainstream school and I think she is forgetting that the other 5yo's who started this year would have been exactly the same. I think you need to speak to the principal about it and also seek some independent help in regards to his possible dyslexia. You could probably do that by contacting the local community health clinic as they often have visiting services to rural areas. Not sure how small your town is, but often you will have to travel outside of the town to get help. I don't agree with IQ testing young children as there are other ways to assess where they are at and pick up on areas that they struggle with and an IQ test score puts a 'label' on them which you really don't want kwim?

But I do think it's fair enough that he doesn't participate in the recital if he doens't know it properly (and how could he be expected to know it as well as the others already kwim? It's not his fault) but it's not fair to exclude him completely - he could at least still go.