I suppose my ponderings are, when does it cross the line from being nice to have family there, to it becoming a family fun day?
I am wondering if some of the issue today was that they were not enforcing the lunch in house groups, it was meant to work like that, but clearly was not.
I love sports days - when I was a child the oval would be filled with families cheering children on. I often look out on the oval (I work across from it) on sports day and feel sad for the lack of participation these days.
I personally would not have issue with younger siblings being at such an event, or even grandparents, I think that's what these days are all about.
Tbh, you hear teachers complaining about lack of parental involvement. I would have thought having family there would have been positive. I can see your point about being a social gathering though. Does defeat the purpose.
I was super into athletics in school, we all had parents there cheering and supporting. In fact my grandfather would be doing my post race rub downs (former footy coach). For me having my family there was important. I knew they were cheering me on and proud of me. I always ate with them because mum had the right foods for me and its not like I ever ate with them normally at school...
I think the line could get crossed though if family detracts from the even instead of improving.
Fwiw I would be peeved about the milk down my back too
My kids hate sport days. I go to support my children best I can, younger siblings come with me because I don't have family support to leave them with someone. I don't do day care. I have taken to just not sending them on major all day sport events. If its a single race like cross country then I am not going to go anymore. It does give them a reason to withdraw from their House group. But we have a whole heap of other issues going on that add to this so it gets complicated.
BUT in saying all that, Sport events at school should be something parents go along to & support their kids. If that means its a family event then thats what it is.
Firstly I'm sorry about your mishap with strawberry milk.
Our sports events are ALWAYS family events. Yes there are gaggles of socialising going on but the school makes sure this does NOT interfere with the kids and why they are there. Our kids aren't allowed to sit with us.
I'd say it was poor planning. And I think family and sports days can work.
I'm the opposite, I think it's a real shame that more families can't get to sports days. When I was a kid it was a huge thing at our school and yes, you'd have families and grandparents and younger kids all there cheering on. It was a real social day with lots of competition between sporting houses etc. At the school my DS1 goes to for high school, school sport is a HUGE thing, and I mean HUGE. when socialising with other parents the second thing they ask you after your name is what sporting house is your child in and I think that's fantastic. It creates a wonderful community and friendly rivalry at the school. Parents and extended family are always encouraged to attend and wear the appropriate house colours. At his swimming carnival it was like being at an international soccer match for all the crowds and cheering and it was a great atmosphere. I'm really looking forward to their beach carnival next friday as that is apparently a sight to behold - they have a formal march past in their house colours and everything. I can't wait.
BUT, it does sound like the overall day was a bit poorly run and I get what you mean about your presence interfering with your child. DS2 is like that - as soon as he knows I'm watching him do something, he stops what he's doing and just stands there. so I tend to hang back and not let him see me.
Our school is about the entire community, not just the teachers and the children attending school. I don't believe a child has the opportunity to reach their full potential without collaboration between the school and the home. I also believe that it is very valuable for children to see their school community function effectively on a social level - that is, parents, siblings grandparents, uncles, aunts... all getting along and enjoying each other's company.
I'm a little confused at your post. I read it to indicate that you question why so many families were present at the school sports day and that you found it inappropriate for pre school aged children to be present? I wholeheartedly disagree with this sentiment, I think it is wonderful that so many families came to be a part of the day. Perhaps the school staff should have encouraged more participation from those attending, such as cheering and so on, but ultimately there is a great deal for children to learn in seeing families from their community enjoying spending time together. As for the pre schoolers... are you serious? Schools are places for children and people who have children, how could it be inappropriate for those future students to be present?
I'm sorry you had milk spilled on you, but... there's no use crying over spilled milk! Honestly, it may have been uncomfortable or inconvenient if you had to go back to work, but it's just spilled milk!
Your title is, 'Are school events becoming family events?', my response would be 'I bloody well hope so!'.
My dd's school encourage it to be a family even, there are about 70 students and they included a teacher parent relay and a race for preschoolers. Kids were encouraged to eat with families at lunch or sit with their friends. The volunteers did some work but the school arranged for the Local Lions club to cook the BBQ (school supplied the food)
I think making these things family events is great and create a sense of community done well but if poorly organised I can understand how it could quickly turn to chaos
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