Of course he can go to a state primary school and private high school. I did and it didn't do me any harm whatsover. And it most likely what I will do for my boys too. All public schools aren't bad, just as all private schools aren't good. It really is a matter of the prinicipal and teachers who are there at the time. And also bear in mind that each child is an individual, whose needs will be different to that of the next child. For me, it's a matter of finding the particular school that will suit my DS, not whether it's public or private.

Also, I read an interesting article the other day written by a teacher about choosing a primary school, and she bascially said what you are thinking - usually the best school is the closest one, because the child and parents will meet others in the area and it makes getting kids to parties, playdates etc much, much easier. And less stress and travel time makes for happier kids. Maybe you could tell your DH about that - I can scan and email you the article too if you like (just PM me your email addy if you want it).

Best of luck hun. I know it's not easy. I started worrying about a school for DS1 at about that age too!