I have no advice to give except to speak to the principal, deputy or head of PE. I don't know that it will make any difference to your DD getting picked, but it will make your objections known. Is DD as disappointed as you or is she just glad to have made it through for LJ?
DD is disappointed she isn't going away for 100m amd 200m but doesn't know that its virtually impossible (unless they are an elite child athlete) for a child of her age to run as quick as the 3 girls that beat her did. I just told her how proud I was of her and never mind. I haven't mentioned anything else to her apart from that. Its just me thats super pee'd and disappointed for her. I'm heartbroken actually. My little girl is always in trouble and I just wanted her to be recognised for what she is good at but nope. Yesterday was the day she has been looking forward to all year. The teacher seem determined to punish her for everything. If only they run them together there would be none of this which is why I am sure DD was deliberately not in that race. Funny how the 1st and 2nd place getter both broke the original record in the 200m. I want to write a written complaint but I don't want to make things worse for DD which I am sure it would for no benefit.
Oh well atleast she does little A's and there are no cheats there. They are all so supportive and encouraging of DD's efforts so I guess we will just wait and look forward to that starting up again soon. Plus she has the longjump at the next level to look forward to.
Does the school support her at all? If not I'd be considering changing schools.
If there are no awards at all handed out to your DD, even for encouragment or a 'good try' I'd be wondering.
That is shocking. I had a similar thing when I was at high school. I was pegged as not sporty so even though I had played softball for years and was by far better than most of the other people trying out (simply because I had played it for so long) I didn't get picked. Even though the captain asked for me to be in the team. I also remembering trying soccer and getting yelled at for something I did wrong. I picked up soccer as an adult but may have found it a lot earlier if I had just had a little bit of support. (I love my soccer and it is my main form of fitness) To this day I feel a bit bitter about it all. Honestly I think it is better to let it go because just like in a game when the ref gives a call you disagree with, arguing will not change the result and they can't go back and replay what happened. I think the fact that she has other avenues to continue her love of the sport is fantastic and I would also be questioning whether that school is right for her. Terrible that you are in this situation at all.
I know the other schools might be a bit ****ty, but gee, it sounds like the school she is at is actively going out of their way to not include her, and that is NOT cool at all. Personally, I wouldn't waste my breath saying anything to them as it's only going to go one and way not the way you want it too Is she upset by this or is she just happy that she's going for something else? Maybe just focus on that for now and next year make a point of being more involved in the carnival so you can try to stop it happening again.
Thats really wrong of the teachers!!! Although it wont change anything for your DD, those other girls are going to be creamed in the zone race by kids who can run fast and did qualify correctly! At least then it will be obvious that they are out of place. But like i said, it doesn't help your daughter
Personally I'd be looking into those public schools even with their bad reputations. They may not be as bad as they seem once you're in and settled with a few friends etc. The school she is at sounds down right awful. If they do that in front of you and have obviously given active consideration as to how to exclude your daughter then I'd be very concerned. I'd probably tell them you noticed and were disgusted after I changed her school.
I think it might be time to reconsider the public schools and go and talk to the principals about your situation. You might be surprised and a talk is only that - not a commitment to enroll her. A school that actively excludes her sounds awful.
Does the more expensive private school offer athletics scholarships?
Keep looking forward to little Aths starting again and forget the school sports. As she is encouraged there she will thrive and it will show in her results. Next year if you think this will happen again it might be worth taking a sick day and having a day together.
Maybe over winter months try and find a sport that she can try, thinking of badminton etc if you think the she will be ignored in a team sport.
If she is OK with not getting in then leave it. Favouritism in sport has been going on forever so it goes to show it's nothing new.
Thank you all for your advice. I've calmed down now and not so pee'd about it. DD is going for the relay, 800m and LJ so definately focusing on that. She is home now and as happy as larry so its obviously not the concern for her as it was to me. I guess because I saw what they were doing right under my nose that was what pee'd me off and then that I didn't have the heart to say anything about it. I guess I'm pis-ed of with myself more then anything.
The whole school thing is a big concern. The thing is the area we live in (rural so few options) the state school is not an option. Very well known for drugs even within the primary school and DD is not a well behaved girl herself. Where there is trouble I can surely find her in the middle of it. Atleast where she is it rules out alot of children that would have really bad influence on her. This wouldn't be a concern if DD didn't struggle so much herself. DD has a very good friend where she is and I have suggested in the past she moves but she doesn't want to unless then friend comes to. Now I'm concerned they might be trying to get rid of her and when it comes to high school there are only limited places and not every child at the primary school will get a place for secondary. I guess the main thing at the moment is DD is happy. I think she might be to young to see what happened. It makes me wonder what else might be going on. Gee the more I think about it the more I wonder if I should change her school.
Clover this year DD has not received a single award yet. Last year she got 3 behaviour awards which is not much seeing as if you get 5 you get a bronze award, 10 silver and 25 Gold. I guess thats another reason this whole thing sucks even more so as her athletics is the one thing where her behavioural problems doesn't affect her performance.
Mylitta you would think they would want the best representatives. I know there is no way the girls who will represent the school will get any further then the next level. LJ is DD's favourite although she is better at running. Either way she will do well.
There are boarding schools that offer scholarships for sporting but DD is to young to go their if she did get a scholarship.
Thank you all for the support. I was worried my vent would start a competitive parents argument and make me feel worse. Thank you all so much for listening and taking the time to reply and not shoot me down
You would think the school would want the best representatives sport-wise for their school, so perhaps if you speak to someone that is in charge of deciding who goes to the next level and explain that the times were incorrect and that your DD is the fastest, then perhaps they would decide that it's best to take your DD as well...
Thanks Rivlas they will have times to prove the other 3 were quicker then DD maybe I should point it out the times they have suggested the other girls ran are up there with the winning state times and print of the state times from Athletics NSW to prove it. Maybe I should highlight the real times 2 of the girls plus DD did at Zone level and then print of the times DD did at region also.
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