I think you definiately did the right thing and handled it so well. I wouldn't of been able to restrain myself from slapping the little bugger.
I agree with Muppity and call the principal and have a chat about it. Even if the mother does make a complaint, it would probably be a good thing because she might realise what her 'little darling' is actually doing.
i keep waiting for the phone to ring and it be the school.. As I was walking back out of the school this morning a police car drove past and I nearly pooped myself lol..
I didn't even yell just called out so he could hear me..
I am also worried Ethan is going to get picked on more today cus this kid knows the school won't do anything..
Dh is going up this afternoon and will speak with the Principal (the twat that he is) if anything happened today..
The principal is just plain useless in this case.. I am not going to bother ringing him now.. He wouldn't say anything and to me its like he is on this kids side anyways.. Makes his schooling a good experience but bugger all the other kids..
Nic - the principal sounds like an idiot. Bullying needs to be taken seriously. I don't know much of your story, but if it's really bad, maybe call the Department of Education. Bullying is horrible and sometimes the memories of it can stay with a person for a very long time.
Well nothing came of it at the school which i am pleased about.. however... on the way home
Dh rode ahead but far enough back.. This kid was trying to block Ethans path with his scooter.. He fell off and Ethan rode back to his dad and said "kid" won't let me get past. dh got up to where they were and said to him.. Are you alright? then this kid started saying how Ethan kicked him and knocked him off his scooter.. which he didn't as Dh saw him fall
Then he turned and said.. I saw you fall because you were being mean and not letting Ethan through.. This kid started to say how ethan knocked him down again and Dh stopped him right there and said no he didn't.. If you weren't so mean to other kids they might actually like you and help you..
he then asked if he needed his mum called or anything which he didn't.. dh said he looked quite shocked when he told him to stop being mean lol/
We have decided unless someone says anything to us we will continue to say things (in a nice way of course) like we did today. I know we can't help the other kids he picks on but we can hpefully stop him picking on Ethan.. *fingers crossed* anyways..
Well nothing came of it at the school which i am pleased about.. however... on the way home
Dh rode ahead but far enough back.. This kid was trying to block Ethans path with his scooter.. He fell off and Ethan rode back to his dad and said "kid" won't let me get past. dh got up to where they were and said to him.. Are you alright? then this kid started saying how Ethan kicked him and knocked him off his scooter.. which he didn't as Dh saw him fall
Then he turned and said.. I saw you fall because you were being mean and not letting Ethan through.. This kid started to say how ethan knocked him down again and Dh stopped him right there and said no he didn't.. If you weren't so mean to other kids they might actually like you and help you..
he then asked if he needed his mum called or anything which he didn't.. dh said he looked quite shocked when he told him to stop being mean lol/
We have decided unless someone says anything to us we will continue to say things (in a nice way of course) like we did today. I know we can't help the other kids he picks on but we can hpefully stop him picking on Ethan.. *fingers crossed* anyways..
Wow just came across this thread. Just curious to know if the bully has calmed down at all & whether your DH's words got through to him? I couldnt stand to think of my child being bullied, its terrible. Even worse if your child was the bully!
I don't think you did the wrong thing but I would start teaching Ethan how to stand up for himself or this could end up being an ongoing problem. Try to teach him how to use his wit to outsmart the bullies.
A course in self defense wouldn't go astray either it will give him the self confidence he needs to back himself up without the need to resort to violence.
It's unfortunate but I don't think there is much schools can do to prevent bullying. For all the stuff theytry if a bully wants to be a bully they will regardless.
JMO
I think what you did was a great thing. There is nothing more empowering for a younger child to see their parents back them. I agree with Leoni that I would be giving him the tools to deal with confrontation and unwanted attention. But I don't necessarily agree with self defense classes, I would honestly go with drama and confidence building stuff first. The mind is stronger than the fist.
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