Pasteurised cheese is fine. Unpasteurised cheese which has been thoroughly cooked and is piping hot throughout is fine.

In France pregnant women are NOT told to avoid these cheeses because they are such a normal part of the diet everyone is aware of the right way to handle/store them and thus the risk of listeria is smaller.

I know this isn't that helpful, since you don't live in France, but i just wanted you to know that these things are not set in stone - listeria in cheese is very rare and cooking removes the risk.

HTH