This has only become an issue over the last week or so. I have always called him 'baby', I suppose where someone would call the LO's a pet name, mine for DS is/was 'baby'.
I absolutely agree that it is a parent's job to defend the child and back the child up, however I feel this situation has been misunderstood. DS didn't approach his dad to get him to stop calling him 'baby'. We were in a general conversation, and then I gave him instructions to get into bed where I included his pet name. DS told me his isn't a baby and to not call him baby. I replied with my usual response of "you will always be my baby" which he often accepts and will say something like OK (yes in an exasperated way but it seemed to be accepting way) this is the point that his Dad came into the conversation.
The point I am trying to make to DS when I say to him that "you will always be my baby" is that (and I explain this as well) I know he isn't a baby, I know he is a big boy and growing up but he will always be my baby. I suppose it is something that I grew up with my mum telling me, she said it to me just the other day. I know she knows I am a grown woman with a child of my own. To her I will always be that precious little bundle she held when I was a little baby. HTMS
:shrug: I don't know, maybe I have it wrong, just my perspective
I'd be peeved too if he (DH) said it in a real sarcastic and condesending way too. Hope you didn't think I was being critical of you as well. It's weird when you're little man starts to assert himself and lets you know that he's not your "baby" but a big boy. They grow up way to quickly.
My DS has just recently asked me to stop calling him baby. And 'honey', 'possum', 'sweetheart', 'chicken','darling'.. The list is long. I am a name giver, and he just wants to be called by his name and his name only. I am trying hard to go by what he wants, but it is hard after doing it for the past 6 years
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