When my parents separated I was 12yo and Mum took my sis and I over to Western Australia.... my Dad remained in NSW. We went over with the new boyfriend. My homelife was shocking to say the least. I kind of toyed with moving back to NSW but soon my dad remarried and that option kinda closed. You are such a wonderful stepmum! What a fortunate girl to have your caring and support. In retrospect I probably should have moved back with my father as the boyfriend was abusive. I think your SD really needs to be careful. It is very common for mothers to sacrifice what's best for their children to please a prospective new man I'm not saying all women do this...

Have you heard any more news? If cheerleading is a priority then everything is probably ok in her world LOL

My own DD is 13yo... it is a very challenging age. It sounds like she managed to fit in with your family ok when she was over here? I'm sure that there will come a time when she might need a break from her mum... maybe during her school holidays? (July) with a bit of luck she might even be able to help you out a bit too.

Well done Fiona, on being a great stepmum