thanks. lots of great suggestions to follow up.

this daughter is not the best to ' discipline'

she will walk over to narby relatives sisters home etc, when she feels under pressure and truly anything i have tried does not help her obey rules and i cant tie her down.

phone priviledges and internet privileges we can try again but because she leaves and goes to relatives homes nearby i truly wish they would work together on these issues but they dont. they will all happily sabotage me when their support could make such a difference.