I like the sound of the contract Trav!! Will be suggesting to DH when he gets home.

unfort with a new baby coming I cant see things getting easier before they get harder though...

The only thing that dd8 has which she would be devastated if it was taken away from her is her football, and well as a parent i believe that a child needs a after school activity and its also a team sport so by her not playing its not just her getting punished her whole team is affected and to me that is wrong so am not willing to pull her out of that or use it as punishment.