DD1 (3.5yrs) has started saying 'stupid' and we are trying to put a stop to it. I think she gets it from childcare. She is allowed to say 'silly' but not 'stupid'. We also don't allow 'shut-up'. She said it to me once and was in so much trouble. She is asked to say 'please be quiet' or 'shoosh please'.
I say shut up to DS too much, not necessarily in a horrible way, but I need to start saying be quiet instead...
I am happy for him to say dork, didn't realise it was a whales penis LOL I dont like idiot. I encourage silly instead of stupid too. We say fart and pop off, it doesn't wory me which DS uses.
DS knows what words are nice words and what words are rude words, sometimes he slips up, but I dont get too wrked up over it, they are only words after all.
We were never allowed to say 'hate' either, and I remember when my brothers used to play their battle games and they used to have to say "i dispatched you" instead of "I killed you".
Some things I think I'll carry from my parents is: shut up, go away, stupid, idiot. I think just basically words that put down others... But ANY word used as a put down is not on.
I don't really have a problem with fart LOL! Do they get in trouble at school for 'fart'?
No way. No words of disrespect at all. Not stupid, not shutup, not I hate you... I don't even let my kids talk to each other in a rude or nasty way to each other let alone to any adult. It's not on. We don't talk to them that way so they are not allowed either. If you want your kids to respect you, you need to show them you won't tolerate disrespect. Doesn't mean you demand respect (I don't believe in that either) but allowing certain behaviour IMO is like saying "You can treat me like crap". It's our job to teach them right from wrong and this is a BIG one that I am against.
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