IMO these 2 words, even though they aren't really swearing, are just the start of a huge list of words (more obvious words) that they are not allowed to say.
They aren't allowed to call each other idiot either.
Are there any words most people think are innocent that you don't allow your kids to say? I remember mum & dad banning us from dork...never thought that was fair! My kids have never heard the word though I don't think, lol.
Dork is the technical term for a whale's penis, so I can understand that one.
DS is allowed to say whatever I say: makes me watch my language! He sometimes comes home with the odd word/phrase from nursery I don't like (eg go away or shut up) and I tell him that's not nice. It's OK to ask for alone time and it's OK to ask someone to be quiet, so I have to work hard on modelling that (and not just screaming at DH and DS "stop touching me! Stop it! Further away! Go outside! I can't cope!" as I did last month).
I understood dork when I got older, just didn't think it was fair as a kid when everyone around me was allowed to say it!
I don't really say stupid & shut up myself, but how my kids got through without saying some of the other things I say i really don't know I always made it clear that that they were grown up words only....its worked so far...not sure what that says about me though, lol.
They use silly, shoosh, not fair, annoying, lol. They do tell each other to go away, but I can't stop that with the way they annoy the crap outta each other. (Yes I say crap, they don't...)
Last edited by ~clover~; November 9th, 2009 at 07:04 AM.
Nope I dont let my kids use any of those words... even my 13 yr old!!!
It sounds awlful, and is extremely disrespectful. I dont speak to people that way, they dont speak to me that way, and i expect my kids to be the same.
Although at school... well.... how would you know, little buggers!!!
My kids know the diffence between "Not nice" words and "swear" words, and neither are ok here.
I agree with not allowing those words. They are very disrespectful.
My son is only 2 but talks up a storm. He is not allowed to say "go away" as we tell him it's not very nice. My husband thinks it ok to use the word "crap" around him as he thinks it is not a swear word, but i do and will not let him use it.
He will not be allowed to use the word "retarded" in any context (ie that is so retarded)...........well ok he might be able to use it if he was saying something like "the growth of the plant was retarded by the lack of sunlight" but you know what I mean.
for me, even though dd is only 19 months. I can't stand hearing kids say shut up its unnecessary. I know a 4 year old who says bugger and I HATE it. And I am not an anal parent kwim. I tolerate alot and am not really mega strict but there are a few things I just don't like. hearing a 4 year old say bugger is just like what the! I know she doesn't know what it means but still
Actually DH has a bit of a mouth on him, particularly when he is venting about work or on the phone. I keep saying 'you have to stop saying X before the baby comes!' He claims to not know which words are 'appropriate' so asked me to make him a list of 'no no words' (not just what he can't say, but what we don't want our children to say, or people to use around them).
the list is:
f***
s***
c***
stupid
bugger
dumb
b*tch
shutup
idiot
crap
damn
w*nker
any race-based words
I will have a bit of trouble with crap and stupid!
Last edited by Talia*L; November 9th, 2009 at 12:29 PM.
: EDA: w*nker!
I'm the same... not allowed here either. My teen DD rarely swears at home (verbally) which i'm grateful for because the few times she has the younger boys have picked stright up on it Same with "hate" and "stupid" etc... not swearing but still discouraged.
I also discourage them from saying "Oh my God" if it's just used flippantly.
A Mother of 5 kids i was friends with a few years ago her youngest child (a son) at age 5 would say to her " Sl*t make my dinner " ... I was more than horrified & shocked especially when i heard him call her " Sl*t " on more than one occasion when i visited her ... she would look so embarrassed & even ashamed, sadly her marriage was in trouble & her DH would speak to her in a disrespected manner in front of her kids
Also sadly ALL 5 kids spoke to her with disrespect ... needless to say their marriage ended and she was happier with the situation of the Father having full-custody of the 5 kids.
Tinks ... too funny we won't allow DD (3.5) to say fart so it's " Pop off " in our house
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I always made it clear that that they were grown up words only....its worked so far...not sure what that says about me though, lol.
Although now that they're older I overlook it if it is said. A 13 yo boy saying pop off is a little strange
Same with "hate" and "stupid" etc... not swearing but still discouraged.
... I was more than horrified & shocked especially when i heard him call her " Sl*t " on more than one occasion when i visited her ... she would look so embarrassed & even ashamed, sadly her marriage was in trouble & her DH would speak to her in a disrespected manner in front of her kids
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