Do you allow your kids to say...

[Bathsheba]

I'm the same... not allowed here either. My teen DD rarely swears at home (verbally) which i'm grateful for because the few times she has the younger boys have picked stright up on it Same with "hate" and "stupid" etc... not swearing but still discouraged.

I also discourage them from saying "Oh my God" if it's just used flippantly.

[~clover~]

Yeah, I've tried to deterr the oh my God here too & explained it. We're getting there. Its not said often at all.

[prama]

i never knew that dork meant whale's penis.. learn something new even at 36!!

skye - hope poopy doesnt pick rude words up, though im sure he will fr somewhere.
shut up and go away arent nice words.

ive seen little toddlers scold their parents and it's quite awful.
and there's a couple of older kids at poopy's daycare who have called some parents "doody head" etc. I've told them it's not nice, and the other day I overheard another mother telling them "you are rude kids"
These are a brother and sister, must be 3 and 4.

I'd hate for some other parent to tell my child he's rude..

[Elocin]

I don't allow shut up, get lost, idiot, stupid, spaz... although it makes it hard because I don't know what is / isn't allowed when the girls are at their mother's place.

DSD1 has started saying 'jesus christ' which I detest, but DH says it so what can I say?? Same as DSD2 saying 'damn it' which is something I know her stepdad uses...

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Nic,
In regards to what is allowed at Mum's house shouldn't matter. I believe that the girls should respect that isn't allowed at your house. I never understood when I was little but my Aunty asked us not to say "Oh My God!", "Oh My Goodness" was used instead. To this day I don't say Oh My God. Its the same with DP, being a tradie he'll say every word under the sun on the phone, but when it comes to talking to me - never ever says a 'swear word' to me...

Hate is a very big dislike of mine... I always say Hate is such a strong wrong, perhaps you don't like x at the moment.

My Step-Sisters children often 'gutter talk' - not much you can do if the parents allow it - they just know that I won't tolerate it and I suggest others words for them to use.

Lots of memories coming back re: this topic... "A swear/inappropriate word is used when you haven't got anything intelligent to say or use".

IMO or contribution to the topic

[Elocin]

Nic,
In regards to what is allowed at Mum's house shouldn't matter. I believe that the girls should respect that isn't allowed at your house.

Totally understand and agree with you CBG, but in the heat of the moment, I can understand them slipping up!! I still slip up in front of my MIL who doesn't approve of swearing at all!!

I'm assuming that there is a lot of swearing going on at DSD1's school because I've seen some pretty colourful MSN / Facebook chats that she accidentally leaves on the screen when I am walking past...

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Yes, I have some younger friends on social network sites and can not believe that their friends would use the c word in a conversation, like hey c*** how are ya? pffftt like its nothing. Young people these days (do I sound really really old?)

[Elocin]

Yes, I have some younger friends on social network sites and can not believe that their friends would use the c word in a conversation, like hey c*** how are ya? pffftt like its nothing. Young people these days (do I sound really really old?)

DH's mate talk like that and I can always tell when he's been hanging around them, esp drinking with them... he always drops the C bomb when I'm least expecting it

Needless to say he gets a nice little telling off!!

[Floweryfields]

No I wouldn't allow these words either, we don't at work, also don't like kids saying things like i'm going to kill you.

[Floweryfields]

i never knew that dork meant whale's penis.. learn something new even at 36!!

skye - hope poopy doesnt pick rude words up, though im sure he will fr somewhere.
shut up and go away arent nice words.

ive seen little toddlers scold their parents and it's quite awful.
and there's a couple of older kids at poopy's daycare who have called some parents "doody head" etc. I've told them it's not nice, and the other day I overheard another mother telling them "you are rude kids"
These are a brother and sister, must be 3 and 4.

I'd hate for some other parent to tell my child he's rude..

I have to pick kids up at our local C&K for after kindy care and a couple of boys there are always shooting me with guns they made there and saying haha you're dead. The other day I got sick of it and told them quite loudly that they were being very rude and to move away from me.

What's with allowing children to have guns and kill each other anyway?

[smiles4u]

A Mother of 5 kids i was friends with a few years ago her youngest child (a son) at age 5 would say to her " Sl*t make my dinner " ... I was more than horrified & shocked especially when i heard him call her " Sl*t " on more than one occasion when i visited her ... she would look so embarrassed & even ashamed, sadly her marriage was in trouble & her DH would speak to her in a disrespected manner in front of her kids

Also sadly ALL 5 kids spoke to her with disrespect ... needless to say their marriage ended and she was happier with the situation of the Father having full-custody of the 5 kids.

Tinks ... too funny we won't allow DD (3.5) to say fart so it's " Pop off " in our house

[CharlieBrownGirl]

Smiles, that is so sad. 1. For XH to speak to speak to his wife like that 2. the children speaking to their Mummy like that 3. That a horrible man would have custody of the children, creating 5 more people to do that in the future. Hope your friend is okay now.

[~clover~]

I've heard some kids (some of my friends whe I was younger) say some absolutely disgusting things to their parents & even at that age I was shocked & appalled.

Elocin - I think rules in your house should apply weather different to mum's rules or not.

TBH my children do hear some horrible language, but they know what is allowed & what is not. I like that growing up knowing these are adult words, they know when their friends learn a new word they won't say it as they already know its not right. If my DH said damn it around the kids I still wouldn't allow them to say it, as they are not adults & aren't to use those words til they are. No point banning those words forever as they will be said , but, so far I think they will wait til they are old enough to understand what they mean, & what the really bad words are before they start saying them all the time. Also hoping they'll have the respect not to speak like that around me, as I am with my mum.

I've had kids around who spoke to their mothers in a disrespectful way & I pulled them up on it & told them not to speak like that when I'm around. I don't want to hear it. I would say don't speak like that at all, but some people encourage it & think its hilarious when their young children say horrible words. So they could do what ever their parents wanted, as wrong as it is, but not while I was around.

[prama]

gee.. they arent allow to make guns etc at day care and all..how are they allowing this?

how sad to call their mum sl*t... yeah, skye, ive seen some parents let their children get away with saying rude things and calling them names.

one of our friends kids once accidentally kicked dh's foot and it hurt and he wouldnt apologise. he must have been abt 5. his father asked him to say sorry, after we mumbled something, and he went ' i didnt do it on purpose so im not going to say sorry" and his father sheepishly laughed it off. sigh...

[smiles4u]

CharlieBrownGirl ... yeh another sad thing is she stopped contacting & speaking to me when i was 39weeks pregnant with my 1st bub ... was a very hard time to have a friend i had known for years cut me off ... and more harder than that was not knowing why ?
My DP & i last saw her when i was heavily pregnant at her engagement to a new man in her life ... i was her only friend at this engagement party (and she had no family members there either) so DP and i felt like we were trying to make up for all her friends & family whom chose not to come ... We made such an effort mingling with her fiance's family & friends to the point we were hoping they didn't notice my friend not having anyone there other then us that she knew. We had a great night, gave each other kisses & hugs, she was smiling & appeared to be happy and that was the last time i ever saw or heard from her. I tried contacting her for ages ... then about a month after my DD was born she FINALLY answered a txt i sent her like nothing had happened (out of character for her) so i told her i was happy that she was OK & that as friend i couldn't believe she stopped contacting me especially being heavily pregnant when i needed her most ... she gave me no excuse so i told her to take care of herself and that she had broken my heart after all the years i had been there to support her as a friend and i also told her that i hoped my DD never treats a friend as she did me