Do you think this is over the top?

[Tinks]

I wore a pink tartan drop waisted dress lol

[Traveller]

I remember being teased mercilessly in grade 5 because of my hairy legs and armpits, but my mum would not let me shave them. So if my daughter wants a leg wax in grade 6 (and has the hair to need it) then yes, she can have it.

Fake nails and tans I am not so keep on, because it is not something I do myself. But if these girls are just trying to recreate the look their mum has then I think it's fair enough. kids love to imitate their parents and feel grown up, I don't see the harm.

Revealing dresses I would draw the line at though, I prefer modesty on children whilst they are still young and innocent.

[Pretty Butterfly]

Along with tweens looking like overdone hookers, (most fake tans look crap, imagine it on a small body? and why on earth does a 12 yr old need fake nails!!??)) I would also worry about what was left for later???

For the yr 10/12 fromal? First date?

If you've done it all by 12, what do you get at 16 for yr 10, a brazillian? A hummer limo?? Lipo and a boob job?

There is nothing left to make the "grown up" nights special.. and thats sad....
I would rather my DD acted 12 at 12, and was able to be 16 at 16, if she's acting 16 at 12, I'd dread to see what she'd expect to be allowed to do later on.... ....scary!!!!

[Ahurani]

That's ridiculous!!

We wore our school uniform lol but in WA we graduate primary in year 7

[Frantelle]

I would not do it to my daughter but I also believe each to their own. How would you like it if someone told you how to dress/parent your child because they did not agree with the way you did things

[Floweryfields]

Fake nails and tans I am not so keep on, because it is not something I do myself. But if these girls are just trying to recreate the look their mum has then I think it's fair enough. kids love to imitate their parents and feel grown up, I don't see the harm.

I believe the harm to be the message that I feel this kind of thing at such a young age sends - the idea that the way you look, the colour of skin you have, etc isn't good enough, that to be accepted in society, or at least liked by everyone, you have to fake it up.
We all know that pressure comes on us all later in life, so why the need for it earlier.

[Doing my best]

I think it is over the top, and I hope that I can keep my daughter innocent and young looking at that age..

[Traveller]

I believe the harm to be the message that I feel this kind of thing at such a young age sends - the idea that the way you look, the colour of skin you have, etc isn't good enough, that to be accepted in society, or at least liked by everyone, you have to fake it up.
We all know that pressure comes on us all later in life, so why the need for it earlier.

Whilst I get where you are coming from I must respectfully disagree. Children are inundated with messages that how they look, what they have, what they wear isn't good enough from the time we first let them watch TV. By grade 6 some girls will still be quite immature and will not care, but some will have reached puberty and will be very aware of themselves in context of the big wide world. Teaching a young girl that, if she wants a tan, it comes from a bottle and not from hours spent on the beach, is a healthy message. Helping them feel confident about their options with regards to beauty products is far from the worst thing a parent could do IMHO. I only wish my mother had done this for me.

[Pretty Butterfly]

Whilst I get where you are coming from I must respectfully disagree. Children are inundated with messages that how they look, what they have, what they wear isn't good enough from the time we first let them watch TV. By grade 6 some girls will still be quite immature and will not care, but some will have reached puberty and will be very aware of themselves in context of the big wide world. Teaching a young girl that, if she wants a tan, it comes from a bottle and not from hours spent on the beach, is a healthy message. Helping them feel confident about their options with regards to beauty products is far from the worst thing a parent could do IMHO. I only wish my mother had done this for me.

And I think differently again....
I dont think my DD needs theses products at all..... yet.
My DD has just reached puberty, but I dont see that as a reason to make her up, get a tan and get fake nails. I want her to think shes just fine how she is, and she doesnt need to be all fake to be pretty/popular etc...

I do agree, its not high up on the "worst thing a parent can do".. but there are also a lot of bad points to doing up a 12 yr like a little adult and sending them off in to the world like that....unfortuantly it can end up quite dangerous, esp if the girl "feels" like she is older, and acts accordingly... it maybe cause DD has a friend like this (I have posted about her before) that I feel this way??? I really does scare me....

eta.. Tinks, I too love hearing others points of view, I dont have to agree, and neither do they, but I love all the different opinions!! I have learnt a lot, and changed my parenting, over these exact topics!! LOL

[Beatrix]

ahh Im all for it.. because to me it would be like my girls just wanting to be like their mum.

I use daily taning lotion (the moistuirser kind) I have my nails done and I often go to the hair dresser and get my hair done.. all of what they are doing isnt permanment minus the waxing but I wish i waxed instead of shaved so def think thats a plus if its needed, even then waxed hair grows back.

Its ONE night that they want to look all grown up and pretty, and well sorry to say unfort now days well my 12 yr old cousin is more developed then me LOL

my girls now 6,4 and 2 love to have their hair done all pretty and some polish on their nails..

[Lulu]

It's not my cup of tea. I just think it's going right over the top unnecesarrily. I mean they just finished primary school, and I know everyone will think I suck but I just don't consider that to be a massive achievement

It's worth a celebration for sure....and DD1 did have classmates attending in limos (!), (and in dresses waaay to revealing for a bunch of 12 year olds)......but Bea has a point. There were lots of girls with the full monty of treatments, but their mums were also the real 'glamazons' of the school, so they were just being like mummas!

My DD1 had her hair done (cos I'm crap at it, and my BF is a hairdresser) a sweet dress and lip gloss and we made a fuss of her transition into teenagerhood (I probably should have started taking the valium in preparation for teensland in retrospect ) and High School....not adulthood.

[Rouge]

I think sometimes people do go over the top (I know of mothers who stuffed bra's with tissues for their daughter's grade 6 formal... WTF?!). And just because they do themselves over the top doesn't mean their children need to. I can't judge on this situation though because well I don't know them

Dressing up, hair done even waxing (which is often necessary) is one thing but acrylic nails I'm not sure about... and yes I'm a hypocrite because my daughter has pierced ears but this kind of thing reminds me of toddlers in tiaras and makes me want to scream and run for the hills.. I just hate fake bits, fake nails, fake boobs, fake hair colour on little girls it's just icky. But just because I like vodka doesn't mean I'm going to share with DD because she wants to be like mummy. What next matching vibes? Pfft. Please.

And I'm allowed to be sensational every once in a while... so there.

[Early Kids]

Yep agreed, OTT.

I'm 24 and NEVER had a leg wax At 12 I was no where near shaving/waxing etc. For memory I was about 13 when I first shaved and only because all the other girls were, wish I had of waited LOL!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I would rather any daughter I had went for waxing over shaving - even at 12. It lasts more than 8 hours that way. And I would have had things a lot worse at school had I not started shaving at 11. Removal of hair isn't growing up too fast!

Having said that - graduating grade 6? To me, that's not graduating. Graduating is when you leave school for good, not when you go to another school.