Thanks for your response, I need to get my mind into a different gear. Now that she's started school I do praise her over the "big girl" things she does, I tell her how proud I am of her, it's just deep down in my heart, that nurturing feeling (you hit the nail on the head).
Have you started to nurture yourself more. Now your children are older, you would likely have a little more time to be able to do things for you. Take an hour out of the day and do something for yourself.
What about mummy daughter days. With both of your daughters and you. You could cook up a storm together, or go out for a 'coffee' with them, go on a girly date for dinner/movie, paint your nails and do your hair, watch girly movies at home....maybe let her and her sister take the lead and organise things and you go along with it all, so they can spoil you a little too.
That is a lovely idea, a "big girls" day out, maybe next weekend the girls and I can spend the day together, they will love that and so will I, thank you.
BellyBelly Life Member - Love all your MCN friends
Jun 2004
The Festival State
3,008
you are definately not alone. I only have one, but she is 6 now, and i struggle with the "big girl" growing up in front of my eyes. Each milestone, the last day of kindy, the kindy concert, the first day of school, yes, they all tug at me too.
All these little steps towards independence (from you), when they ride their bike for first time, when they want to brush their own hair etc. You're dying to jump in, cos they're not brushing ALL the hair, there are still knots left, but they are giving it a real try and are so eager to hear you say "yes, you did it".
Every time, it reminds me, this is the last time she will be that little/young (and no more for me). You are definately not alone Diane.
I am proud as anything, that my child is becoming independent, but yes, everyday she seems to need me less and less. Sometimes that is a blessing, esp things that hurt my back to help her with, other times, i would love to keep doing it for her, but i also don't want her to grow up and not know how to be self sufficient - so it's a tussle in my own head.
You still spend time with your child, but instead of doing every single thing for them, there is so much time you need to hold back, and let them do it themselves, even when it takes longer and you're dying to jump in! It's so tempting!
As soon as i look at your siggy, i know the answer, she's your last, so of course, it must hit home more for you - hugs.
Registered User
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks