How much does your 10-11 year old do for themselves?

[AnyDream]

Lenny I would be keen to hear where/what you were reading re marshmallow brain LOL. I did a quick google & read the first thing I found. I don't think it fully explains DD1's state of being but I think it valuable re emotional insights.

[Lenny]

MD it was Michael Grose. Either in his blog or his magazine. A friend with daughters was discussing and I was just an interested party. I'm sure boys have their own brain phases too!
I'll look for it.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I could do all this age 11.

Liebling (6.5) can't manage the shower alone, but is ticking the other boxes.

[Tinks]

I've had the most stressful morning with DD2. She brought her school USB home on Friday and has lost it so spent all morning searching while crying and whinging about searching. I flat out refused to help her. She refused to walk to school - we live less than 500 metres away! She's using a plastic bag for her books and lunch. Something has happened to her school bag, I have no idea where it is. That was her 4th school bag this year!

I am so over it. I feel like a failure. Seriously considered killing myself on the way home from school drop off this morning.

[Artechim]

Tinks, I feel the same way most days. Parenting sucks far more than I ever imagined.

It sounds like you are doing the right thing. Life is going to slap her in the face if she doesn't sort it out before she moves out of home.

[Arcadia]

Oh no, that would be so frustrating!!

My older sister was like that. It drove my parents crazy.

No advice, just sympathy.

[AnyDream]

Tinks that's a pretty good sign that you need to get her assessed. Girls often fly under the ADHD/asperger radar because the signs in girls are quite different to the most-frequently recognized ones in boys.