Now don't shoot this down before you try it ... I have not tried it, BUT it sounded like a good idea AND I'm storing it in the messyfile room in my brain.
What do both of them like? Or what can they do that they have to work as a team, but that each have their own "skill" that they bring towards reaching the same goal? Like DS7 likes to say ... write funny poems and DS12 likes heavy-metal (I know God forbid) ... then ask them to write a song together and let them act it out for you and DH and make a huge fuss over them being so good at working together. I saw it on TV *runs and hide* that is why I say I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not.
Eww reading that back... does not sound too good.
Otherwise ... get them into training to box and let them have it out in the ring ... under supervision and where they can learn how to apply self-control ?????????
Goodluck, I can't imagine having to break up a fist fight between my own kids ... that must, in the words of a 12 year old ... SUCK
don't have kids myself but my SIL has a great trick. Her twin 8YO sons have a set bed time, every time they play up, bed time comes forward 30 minutes. So bed time is 8pm, then 7.30, 7 etc. One time she sent them to bed at 4pm! but it worked! LOL
Mine are the older two and they argue and fight and whinge and ***** about absolutely everything. So bloody antagonistic towards each other too!
Sad but true, I have discovered that most incidents are thanks to some form of selfishness. Such as the toaster incident - me me me.
The rest of the time its when Angie is trying to be the parent. Such as the cricket bat incident.
So how do we deal with these two problems? At the moment a big one is making sure I am paying attention enough to hear Angie throwing orders around - even if it IS something I would say - and reminding her I am the parent. Then I deal with what she is pushing them around about. Sometimes him thumping her back helps me re-enforce that its my job to tell them others whats what. "See, if you had told me and let ME be the parent, it wouldn't have happened at all."
And yes, when its a selfish cause - both lose to learn humility. So no toast for either. Fighting over whose gets to watch what movie first - neither movie goes on. Keep that up with absolutely everything, even things that exclusively belong to one of them, I am hoping it means they will learn to come to an agreement themselves amicably because they both know they wont get it if they fight.
I saw it on TV *runs and hide* that is why I say I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not.
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