Now don't shoot this down before you try it ... I have not tried it, BUT it sounded like a good idea AND I'm storing it in the messyfile room in my brain.

What do both of them like? Or what can they do that they have to work as a team, but that each have their own "skill" that they bring towards reaching the same goal? Like DS7 likes to say ... write funny poems and DS12 likes heavy-metal (I know God forbid) ... then ask them to write a song together and let them act it out for you and DH and make a huge fuss over them being so good at working together. I saw it on TV *runs and hide* that is why I say I'm not sure if it's a good idea or not.

Eww reading that back... does not sound too good.

Otherwise ... get them into training to box and let them have it out in the ring ... under supervision and where they can learn how to apply self-control ?????????

Goodluck, I can't imagine having to break up a fist fight between my own kids ... that must, in the words of a 12 year old ... SUCK