Thanks for your replys guys. This morning was strangely quiet. They are both raaaahhhhh with me so they werent speaking to me or to each other either. Breakfast was all over and done with very quickly as I presume they were both starving hahaha that will teach em.

Inertia it is alot to do with Corban thinking he is soooo much older and wiser so therefore he is the boss. Its hard for him I guess because we do use him as an extra pair of (parental) hands when needed. Like asking him to take Scout for a walk while im trying to get dinner sorted. We make sure he knows how much we appreciate it and I guess he keeps that "hat" on even when not asked to.

Like the early bed time idea Harveybubsmum. It was very peaceful having just two of them at the table last night, but I honestly think some days they would not be allowed out their beds in the morning because they would lose so much time. I used to joke they fought over fresh air but it is seriously like that sometimes.

Nadine it is a great idea in theory but unfortunately it would never work with these two. They cant be in the bathroom together to brush their teeth so there is no way they would co operate long enough to complete a task together.

When hubby got hime last night I burst into tears as it really does drain me and makes me feel so hopeless and useless! He suggested we tie them together 24/7 and leave them in a room so they have to sort it and get along.
I suggested we sell them on the black market!!! (just kidding)

I know one day this will all be a blur on my memory bank but god give me strength to get to that point!