Natural consequences or bad mumma?

[~Raven~]

Beckles it sounds like you are doing the best thing ever for your kids! Teaching them to be responsible for themselves, help others and to work as a team

I'll be taking a few leaves out of your book too methinks

Ignore the other parent at school - they'll be the ones complaining that their 20-odd children live at home and don't lift a finger.

I reccon!

[tiggerandpooh]

lol beckles - that is what I thought! and I bet that isn't the only thing she does....

[Enchanted]

I too think you are doing an amazing job of raising your boys

My Mum got me to do the same things when I was younger. I believe that everyone is an equal in the family and that each person should contribute to the household chores etc. Don't worry about that Mum at school.. she will want to eat her words one day I am sure

[~Jo~]

Beckles, the fact that the boys were humbled and made two cups of tea the following morning and offered to make others shows that they are seeing the consequences of their actions and realising how not working together impacts on others. Well done. Im actually thinking I need to get the kids to do alot more now

Jo

[Jaycee]

Yep, I agree with the other girls, you're doing a fantastic job and I only hope that I do as good a job when Jake reaches that age!

[Lenny]

You are awesome Beckles, what a great system you have, and it is obviously working. Too many kids have no idea about consequences and responsibility.
What i like is that you have 'jobs' but also that they need to make you a cup of tea. That's great, it's teaching them about respect and being nice to their mum (who obviously does so much for them with simple gestures).

[squidipa]

i think when your not making the kids do what needs to be done in a household then they are oblivious to the real world.
Every one has jobs in our house!
The new borns job is the pull faces and fart on ya.
The 3 year old has to clean up after him self but when its real bad the 7 year old has to help. The 7 year old also does his bed and the 3 year olds everyday and is responsible mostly for the 3 year olds mess or clothes as they share a room. He gets paid for this and happily helps out and is very egger to do more and help with making tea. he said last night he would rather make tea with me than play xbox

The 10 year old daughter helps in the kitchen both kids are capable of vacuuming they both clean their own rooms. The 10 year sets table clears it and does bench fold washing and helps with new born and other old jobs. Like sweeping kitchen and doing back porch and helping to get the 3 year old ready some days when running late.

the 3 year old always gets baby wipes out and opens out nappy and gets me the nappy covers during nappy changes with new born.

I run the house hold, i do all dinners and pay all bills and fix everything in house and organizes any repairs and carries all the money burdens. I do most of the oganising and tiding in house normally also. other jobs me and hubbie share. I take all kid to and from daycare parties school and other. I am the only one with a driving full licence.
hubbie does dishes and vacumes, does pool and helps out where ever.

My cousin growing up didnt even know how to make a meal like fried egg or even make his bed at age of 13. My husband had a mother whom done just about everything for him and i also had a friend like this also. I want the children to know they are capable of doing everything around a house even if they choose not to do this when they move out of home. they even do the bath room too when asked.

I grew up in a family of 7ppl and we all done our fair share thats how we learnt and thats how we did it. I love they way you have set yours up its good. WE have what we call a shop and the children can by what ever item out of this so called shop with pocket money or go to the real shops. We purchase marked down items and put it in the shop. All activity things so they learn the cost of money. We make the kids save half there pocket money at moment they are saving for spending money in NZ next year.

not all jobs do the kids get paid for as thats like sometimes we just gotta do things and theres no credit or acknowledgment so we dont pay for every job. But they do get paid

[Jewel]

I too think you're doing a fantastic job!
That's a great system you have going.

My friend at school had her mother do everything for her, she didn't even know how to use the washing machine when she was in her laters year at High School. I don't really know how she survived going away to uni. Lol.
It was way wayyyy beyond ridiculous.

You're a awesome mum, and your boys are lucky to have you.
xoxo

[Nai]

I think all children should learn that their actions have consequences and what you are doing is fantastic! You were not too harsh - you were spot on. Seeing that they understood what they had done and made up for it accordingly the next day shows that it made sense to them.

And good on you for making sure your boys are housetrained!! If only DP's mum had done the same when he was growing up