Natural consequences or bad mumma?

[squidipa]

i think when your not making the kids do what needs to be done in a household then they are oblivious to the real world.
Every one has jobs in our house!
The new borns job is the pull faces and fart on ya.
The 3 year old has to clean up after him self but when its real bad the 7 year old has to help. The 7 year old also does his bed and the 3 year olds everyday and is responsible mostly for the 3 year olds mess or clothes as they share a room. He gets paid for this and happily helps out and is very egger to do more and help with making tea. he said last night he would rather make tea with me than play xbox

The 10 year old daughter helps in the kitchen both kids are capable of vacuuming they both clean their own rooms. The 10 year sets table clears it and does bench fold washing and helps with new born and other old jobs. Like sweeping kitchen and doing back porch and helping to get the 3 year old ready some days when running late.

the 3 year old always gets baby wipes out and opens out nappy and gets me the nappy covers during nappy changes with new born.

I run the house hold, i do all dinners and pay all bills and fix everything in house and organizes any repairs and carries all the money burdens. I do most of the oganising and tiding in house normally also. other jobs me and hubbie share. I take all kid to and from daycare parties school and other. I am the only one with a driving full licence.
hubbie does dishes and vacumes, does pool and helps out where ever.

My cousin growing up didnt even know how to make a meal like fried egg or even make his bed at age of 13. My husband had a mother whom done just about everything for him and i also had a friend like this also. I want the children to know they are capable of doing everything around a house even if they choose not to do this when they move out of home. they even do the bath room too when asked.

I grew up in a family of 7ppl and we all done our fair share thats how we learnt and thats how we did it. I love they way you have set yours up its good. WE have what we call a shop and the children can by what ever item out of this so called shop with pocket money or go to the real shops. We purchase marked down items and put it in the shop. All activity things so they learn the cost of money. We make the kids save half there pocket money at moment they are saving for spending money in NZ next year.

not all jobs do the kids get paid for as thats like sometimes we just gotta do things and theres no credit or acknowledgment so we dont pay for every job. But they do get paid