short of pulling my hair out from complete frustration... thought I would throw it out on here to see if anyone has some amazing idea on how I can get through to my nine year old son! It is so incredibly frustrating at the moment... what do I mean the moment... it has been frustrating for MONTHS!

In my house both my big kids receive pocket money for the chores that they are responsible for. We have two job sheets, that they swap week about. Laura, my daughter, gets on and does what she needs to do, gets her pocket money, without too much fuss and bother, just does it.... Nathan on the other hand... my god! pushing wet cement up a hill with a stick would be an easier task!! I have tried letting laura do all the jobs, and get paid extra for it in the hope that if it hurt Nathan at the hip pocket he would WANT to do the work... he did come and ask me if he could start doing his jobs again, so I guess that part worked... but I am soooooooo over constantly asking him to do what needs to be done, I am so over nag nag nag nag. Its like he is on a different planet! He can start something, get distracted, and be standing there in the one spot doing nothing... sometimes I feel like he does it on purpose just to irritate me.

I'm just so sick of nagging him, and feeling constantly frustrated. What am I doing wrong????