Overweight 12 year old

[joey123]

Oh no...i just read your post in regards to that issue - wish i have some words of advice to offer you but i dont i'm sorry.

I hope everything is ok and once the results come back i hope you can get it sorted and start feeling more normal down there again. Take care

Thanks! Me too. It's my one excuse to get out of the house

[joey123]

Is there anything else that can cause you to put on weight other than eating too much or eating the wrong foods? Like any .... not diseases .... I can't think of the word.

The reason I ask, my daughter goes to her dad's 6 days a month. The days that she is home with me she exercises a minimum of 30 mins a day and eats 2 wheet bix for breakfast, tuna or multigran sandwich and fruit for meals and snacks during the day and meat and veg for dinner (not large sizes) and she is still putting on 200-300grams per week. She says that she is trying to do the right thing at her dad's and I am trying not to grill her too much, so I don't know exactly what she is eating, but she is losing weight during the week when she is home and then putting it back on, plus more, each weekend. I really don't think, unless she sat in one spot and ate cake all weekend, that this is normal. Perhaps she has something wrong???

I am considering going to my GP, but wanted to get some advice first to see if anyone has had any experience or heard of this before.

Thanks!!

[nothing2lose]

Puberty??? It is not unusual for children who have always carried a little bit of extra weight to balloon during puberty due to hormonal changes.

[~Ash~]

This really reminds me of my brother - he was really self conscious of his weight (and my dad didn't help that fact) until he was 15. He shot up within a year and has almost looked too skinny ever since.

He was a chubby kid his whole life - he did footy and basketball - ate as well as he could - but he would never really lose the weight like he wanted to.

He has never put weight on again since he grew tall but I think that had a lot to do with how hard he tried to lose it for years when he was young - he is very into fitness now.

I agree with the food diary thing - either let her do it so she doesn't have to tell you or do it together. If she is eating right with only a few days exception it might be a hormonal thing in the end.

Good luck!


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[Phteven]

My gym lets teenage girls come to the dance classes (zumba and sh'bam) if they have parental permission. Maybe you could try going dancing together.
There is a lot of hidden sugar in foods that people consider healthy - juices, yogurts, museli bars. It might be worth your while to teach her how to read nutritional panels.

Really if she is eating well, exercising at least 30 minutes most days and looks healthy then I wouldn't be too concerned about the scales.

[SunnyRain]

You sound like a really caring mum. I just want to start with that and add that what I'm about to say is not an accusation. Things are what they are, not always in our control.

A young girl who loves her mum and dad, and spends time with them both, must be suffering some emotional anguish that your relationship with her father is not a happy one. This must be having an impact on the way she perceives herself in the world and could very likely be causing her to create an unhealthy relationship with food.

I would recommend taking your daughter to your gp and discussing the 'mental health care plan' which gives you, her or both, 12 bulk-billed sessions with a psychologist.

It would be very worthwhile.

Good luck.

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Jude 07/10/08 | Lilac 16/06/11

[MissM]

I agree with kuraiza and n2l. I'm also a bit worried about the long term effects all this focus on her weight will have on her.

Puberty is a CRUEL CRUEL thing. Perhaps you could see your GP by yourself and express your concerns. Is she having regular periods yet if at all? Could this be a contributing factor? I gain around 2kg when my period is due. Which is very annoying, but hey it's part of being a woman.

I would be stressing the importance of healthy eating and being active (which you are) rather than noting she's gaining 200-300g a week, I'm sure you are doing everything in your capable hands to keep her healthy. She will probably put weight on through puberty like most of us do.

Hope my post isn't too mean as I sincerely don't intend it to come across that way.

Eta: onyx is on the mark too!

[nickle730]

Has your DD started menstruating yet? You may find that once she has a regular cycle her weight also settles.

[joey123]

Puberty??? It is not unusual for children who have always carried a little bit of extra weight to balloon during puberty due to hormonal changes.

No, it's not puberty... she has always been overweight and always done lots of sport :?

This really reminds me of my brother - he was really self conscious of his weight (and my dad didn't help that fact) until he was 15. He shot up within a year and has almost looked too skinny ever since.

He was a chubby kid his whole life - he did footy and basketball - ate as well as he could - but he would never really lose the weight like he wanted to.

He has never put weight on again since he grew tall but I think that had a lot to do with how hard he tried to lose it for years when he was young - he is very into fitness now.

I agree with the food diary thing - either let her do it so she doesn't have to tell you or do it together. If she is eating right with only a few days exception it might be a hormonal thing in the end.

Good luck!


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Thanks. Hopefully that will happen with us too.

You sound like a really caring mum. I just want to start with that and add that what I'm about to say is not an accusation. Things are what they are, not always in our control.

A young girl who loves her mum and dad, and spends time with them both, must be suffering some emotional anguish that your relationship with her father is not a happy one. This must be having an impact on the way she perceives herself in the world and could very likely be causing her to create an unhealthy relationship with food.

I would recommend taking your daughter to your gp and discussing the 'mental health care plan' which gives you, her or both, 12 bulk-billed sessions with a psychologist.

It would be very worthwhile.

Good luck.

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Jude 07/10/08 | Lilac 16/06/11

Thanks, I wasn't aware of that option!!

I agree with kuraiza and n2l. I'm also a bit worried about the long term effects all this focus on her weight will have on her.

Puberty is a CRUEL CRUEL thing. Perhaps you could see your GP by yourself and express your concerns. Is she having regular periods yet if at all? Could this be a contributing factor? I gain around 2kg when my period is due. Which is very annoying, but hey it's part of being a woman.

I would be stressing the importance of healthy eating and being active (which you are) rather than noting she's gaining 200-300g a week, I'm sure you are doing everything in your capable hands to keep her healthy. She will probably put weight on through puberty like most of us do.

Hope my post isn't too mean as I sincerely don't intend it to come across that way.

Eta: onyx is on the mark too!

No periods yet, but her weight has always been an issue. ???

Thanks - no it's not mean