Wow guys I didn't expect this much of a response! I was having a cruddy time and wasn't in the right frame of mind to think logically about how to handle it.

I've had a rethink about how to handle the situation and instead of getting all antsy and feeling offneded of they don't want to eat what I've lovingly prepared I'll act all casual like and offer them something basic like toast or weetbix. Not straight away but after an hour or so before bed.
Cailin I may even make some pumpkin soup. I'd forgotten how much they love that and I can hide a multitude of stuff in it

*mwa* I love you guys